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Just had a 'sex' chat with DS (age 9) - Have I done the wrong thing?

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OnlyTeaForMe · 31/01/2009 21:45

I've always been of the view that I will tell my children whatever they ask, when they ask, but have found that they haven't actually asked me that much!

DS (9 last month) has seemed quite naive in many ways to date, but recently started commenting about a few things - animals mating, marriage, finding girlfriends when you're older etc.

He's known that it takes mummy's egg and daddy's seed to make a baby, but up until now we've never actually talked about how that happens, or about sex.

Anyway he told me that he'd been told by a friend that a man has to wee into the woman, so I thought it was time to set him straight.

Soooo.... tonight I gave him one of the 'How babies are made' usborne books and said I wanted to discuss a few things with him

It was all fine. Not embarrassing for either of us, and he asked some questions and discussed some practicalities (!) and I was feeling 'oh, this is ok then...'.
But then suddenly he said, 'I don't want to talk about this any more' and seemed to get a bit upset. He said it made him feel a bit sick thinking about it. I said, OK, no problem, that's quite normal at your age to feel like that, and you may feel differently about it in a few years time, but in the meantime you don't need to think about it or worry about it - I just wanted you to know the facts since it seems some of your friends are discussing it.

Then we read another book (a chapter of a book he's reading) together and that was that.
I HAVE done the right thing haven't I?? I relly didn't want to upset him?

My parents never told me anything and I had a very piecemeal sex education .

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Littlefish · 31/01/2009 21:48

Yes, you have done the right thing. You were led by him. You gave him the information and gave him the opportunity to ask questions.

Now, he needs time to digest the information.

callmeovercautious · 31/01/2009 21:56

Thats sounds just right to me

Hopefully he will now be able to ask you abou the things he "hears" knowing he will get the truth from you. Let him lead from now on and it will be fine

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