Bright 4 year old not settled at school

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My 4 year old started school in September.To cut a long story short...he is very bright,in the top set,but stuggling to settle...very tearful,very wobbly,hard to get him in etc.School want to bring in Special Needs (which includes behaviour) He is only four (the youngest bar one boy)this seems very premature..I am worried he will get labelled!!! Has anyone any experience of this? Particularly if it is positive as I am very worried!! Thanks

Hi, I'm a teaching assistant in a reception class and we still have kids who come in tearful. I can't understand why the school want to bring in special needs unless this behaviour continues long into the day. Does he do this at other times in the day at school or is it just when you leave him? It does sound as though it is simply immaturity (altho he's bright) with him being virtually the youngest in the year group, and that DOES make a difference. I have a July born son and seriously considered keeping him back a year before he started school. What have the school suggested you do about it?

sounds as though the school is being a bit over the top!My dd just turned four,she goes to school one or two mornings a week,but for the last few weeks has been refusing to stay,getting upset and we have brought her home again.Her teacher was really relaxed about it and said to leave it until she wants to come,not to push it,it was probably just a blip.Your school seem to have a really extreme attitude towards a very little boy.Can you keep him home for a bit?

As a teacher I would ask very clearly what they will be saying to behaviour support. I would be VERY shocked if they even agree to observe him, its totally normal to have a tearful start to a new school!

How was he at nursery? Did they have any concerns? How is he at toddler groups etc?

Hi thanks for all you help.
He goes wobbly throughout the day over little things I think and gets really upset (but he was fine before xmas) and is really frightened of one little boy.His teacher does seem to be very hard on him too (and I am not just saying that!)