Worried about DD

[hobbgoblin]

My DD is 9 and for the last few weeks has 'changed'. She was always quite quiet and introverted but always a happy little thing too.

She's been through some tough stuff which I won't detail for anonymity, but we have been in a good situation for some time now - long enough for her to have had a reaction to the difficult times imo. if she was going to.

Anyway, assuming it's not that, this is how she is:

Pale and miserable looking, like the life and soul is draining out of her.

Quiet and withdrawn.

Constantly feeling sick.

Seems to start itching all over with the slightest stress.

Gets agitated easily.

Sometimes reluctant to eat.

Slow and as if on another planet.

This has had me in tears today. She is frustrating me but more than that I am desperately worried about her.

I try really hard to keep her self esteem high even when things have been difficult for us all. Always kept to routines, cuddled and told her I love her and that she is wonderful without going OTT.

She has been getting spots and some pubic hair recently too...

two thinks spring to mind: Hormones or being bullied!

I have a 9 YO DD and she has had a few days where she has just cried and cried for no reason. She says she feels happy but just wants to cry. This feeling is scary for DD and she then panics about it. Her teacher and I think it is her hormones!

Thanks MrsWeasley

I want to talk to school, which I feel I can, but the head is the type to instantly assume (and then shut ears) that it's because it's there is going to be a new baby. I'm 99.99999% certain it's not that as actually that is the one thing that DD seems happy about and will talk about with a smile and enthusiasm.

I think it could well be hormones but I don't knwo much about how strongly they can influence mood/behaviour at this sort of age. I started period age 11, so quite early.

Will try and find out about bullying. She has two good friends who she appears to have had no fallings out with at all as she still talks about them and is going to the cinema with them next week. One is a very caring girl so I hope DD feels safe at school as a result.

The hormones thing is worth thinking about. My DD went to school a happy smiling child on wednesday by 10 o'clock, for no reason she was crying and moody, she sat with me and said she feels odd becuase she was crying and snappy yet she felt happy.
When I spoke to her later that day she was laughing with a friend but said she felt as if she was going to burst into tears any moment.

She was fine the next day.

Her older sister didnt start her periods until she was 13 but we could see a monthly pattern to her moods from about 9!