When dealing with toddler tantrums, is it ok to give them a cuddle if they ask for it?

[Ceebee74]

I know this is probably a really stupid question - DS1 is 2.6 and has recently started having little tantrums when we refuse something etc. After about a minute of him sobbing head down on the floor, he usually gets up and asks for a cuddle which I do...then he usually forgets what he was tantrumming about.

Is this the correct way to deal with it? I never back down btw, just give him a cuddle.

yes i always give my ds a cuddle when calm but will ignore the tantrum so your not rewarding the tantrum

I think once they have stoppped sobbing/screaming/huffing and they come to you for a hug then it is over and a hug is the best way to move on

Oh good, glad I am doing something right

I never offer a cuddle and do ignore the tantrum - he always asks for one but is usually still sobbing at this point but instantly stops once I cuddle him.

As long as you don't give in to what the tantrum is about in the first place. Once they know they are never going to get "it", it's OK to cuddle or pat their back or whatever so that they can get out of the tantrum feeling comforted and loved.

agree with the others, I think they can get a bit scared of their tantrums and need a cuddle.

I agree too, our DD (23 months) has little fits and shouts quite a bit (she's quite demanding) but we too ignore the unwanted behaviour or say 'no we don't shout' etc then once she has exhausted herself or the fit is over she will usually want a cuddle and she'll usually say sorry mummy (which is very sweet) she also says she's 'grumpy' sometimes which i find amusing that she knows when she's grumpy!

toddlers are hard work huh - but lots of fun too!

I totally agree - it is the job of toddlers to experience their emotions and learn not to be scared of them. Cuddle away
U are all such lovely mums! 20 years ago child rearing was all about control and punishment - Don't care what people say I think the world s getting better.