New to Mumsnet, but hoping for some advice? I'm worried about my DS change of behaviour.
DS is 4.5 and in second term of reception.
He started off well and the first parents evening was v encouraging. Towards the end of last term he was getting into trouble outside the classroom eg pushing children over, insulting other children. I spent some time with his teacher and a reward system seemed to work for while.
This week he has been disciplined in school for pushing again, and generally ignoring direct requests. Had another chat to his teacher who said that the incidents are escalating again. She also mentioned that DS is having trouble approaching the other children to play. And if games/situations don't go his way, he is either lashing out or getting very upset. We have noticed this at home too, and also he has stopped sharing nicely when we have other children round. He does not want others to play with his things.
He has always been very sociable. He had a gang of friends at nursery and was very happy. One of those friends is in his class now. We went through a couple of minor aggressive phases at around 2-3 years but came through the other side and thought they were over.
I have a 6 month old DD who my DS idolises. I don't think she is the reason for his change. I am currently on mat leave so DS has had a lot of time.
I think he is missing being part of a group of friends. There are only 10 boys in his class and they play in very small groups eg I hear "Freddie is always with James". But he doesn't know how to get himself involved with a group? I am guessing really as I can't get him to open up. He is not good at expressing his feelings - perhaps the root of the problem?
Anyone have any ideas? Or even tips to help an almost 5 year old express themsleves?