posted this here as well as sn as want both opinion sreally.
ds2 has High Functioning Autism/Aspergers. he is nearly 6 (in 3 days as he so kindly keeps pointing out lol). he is in mainstream school, is very very sweet and lovely but often gets things a bit 'wrong' often due to his literal thinking. anyway, i am frequently having mums come up to me saying that ds had done such and such to their child and sometimes the other mum knows about ds's autism and they are annoyed but understanding. if they dont know i dont mention his autism as i dont want to be seen to be making excuses as i understand also that they are angry as i would be fi something happened to one of my dc.
HOWEVER, before xmas hols, in fact on the last day, a mum who i liked (who actually speaks to me- not one of the playground clique!), told me she was really upset as her dd had come home from school with a bruise on her face and was crying becasue ds had punched her in the face. i apologised etc and said how unlike him it was etc etc but it wasnt til i picked him up at the end of the day that i got out of him what had happened. i am ashamed to say this is really the fault of dh. a coupkle of weeks previously ds had been picked on by some boys in yr above and was coming home with scratcheds pn his face. school werent helping and basically accused ds of lying about it so dh stupidly said to him 'if anyone hits you, you hit them back'. meaning obv children who were bullying him. so ds tells me X hit him in the arm and so he punched her in the face (cos daddy told him to hit if someone hits him [stupid man emoticon]).
so as this was the end of the term i didnt see her again til jan and she is now blatantly ignoring me. ds hasnt been invited to her dd's party and yet i know they play together at school in breaktime. i just dont want her to think ds is naughty or horrible becasue he's not- he is completely lovely and a real softie actually. but at the same time i dont want her to think i am making an excuse and i have left it quite late and dont even know how to bring the subject up with her. i did think about writing her a letter but thought thats a bit stupid.
arggggghhh! wwyd?