Have I spoilt my baby?

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Just after some reasurance that I've been doing the right thing really...

I have a 9 week old baby, haven't been following a routine just been letting him 'tell' me what he needs and when. I do bathe him and try to pop him to bed roughly the same time every night - this was going reasonably well until recently - hates his bath (previously loved) and difficulty settling and then waking every hour or so.

Also during the day he screams when I put him down. He takes all his daytime naps on me unless he's in the pram. When I do a nappy change and I turn my back he screams. Gah!!

People have said that I would 'spoil' my baby if I kept him with me all the time and I just ignored them but now I'm wondering if I've done the wrong thing.

I'm hoping this behaviour is perfectly normal...?

Thanks,
barbsx

Wow! thanks so much Lucy! Am gonna facebook you

Choosyfloosy Thanks for the sling link - never thought to look on there! Am going to have a go with a sheet later! haven't done big bath yet but will defo give it a go!

I used to worry about this when my ds was like this. Wish I hadn't bothered - everything was fine and I had lots of lovely cuddles. This is a good thing as ds is such a whirlwind of energy now he won't stay still long enough to cuddle his old mum

You sound like you're doing a grand job to me.

it's one of these except it's washed out blue.

it saved my life when ds2 was little, it enabled me to do the basics like going to the loo and feeding my other two dcs!!

You cant spoil a newborn. You are doing everything right by going with your instincts.

Fab Joosey Hooray!!! I'll be able to make a cup of tea!!!!

The cuddles and reasurance you give him now, will make him feel loved and secure, and in the long run will help his independance when he is older. It's a wonderful time for snuggles, you cannot give enough!

Having a bath together is lovely - you get a good long soak, and they get to snuggle. I still share a bath with my 2.8 year old as its a great way to enjoy a bath.

I never let DS cry, kept him close to me, bf on demand, use a sling (yes, still and he isn't small), and he is the most confident, out going child who will go to, and talk to anyone. And sleeps in his own bed with absolutely no trouble at all. So I certainly didn't make a rod for my back

You can't spoil a baby. I would go with your gut feelings and ignore anything else.

Agree with all the others. Enjoy this time. I know it can be wearing but wait for the time when he is too busy playing to want to sit and cuddle you!

I used to feed ds to sleep every night as a baby. He goes to bed on his own and has done for several years.

Also agree People told me this too and I'm glad I ignored them because the time when your baby is so tiny and falling asleep on you is so short and rather precious...ours is only 10 months old now and I am already very nostalgic!

you are not spoiling your baby, infact it is your job to love your baby and thats what you are doing. don't listen to those people, sounds like they are stuck in 1956