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Really don't know what to do with DS1 anymore - hitting at preschool again!

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TheMags · 19/01/2009 14:23

Yet again I have picked up DS1 from preschool only to be called aside to be told he has been naughty once again. Today he has apparently been hitting other children apparently leaving a mark on on the head (DS told me he threw things out of a box and it hit them - preschool said hitting but both as bad). I seem to be collecting him constantly at the moment and being told they have had to tell him of for something. The problem is he doesn't seem to understand what he's done wrong and although he says sorry apparently it's very half-hearted.

He's 3.5 and this problem seems to have been going on for years. We have periods when it gets better then we have a period when it's really bad like now. I dread taking him to parks, soft play etc as I never know what he's going to do. I just feel like sitting down and crying (which in all honestly I've already done today).

We use time outs at home and make him say sorry (at home its normally his younger brother who he pushes etc) but I really need some other techniques to try and sort this out as I can't go on like this. I realy dont know whether I should be going to the GP and asking to be referred to someone - but who? Please help me help him!

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Weegle · 19/01/2009 14:30

You poor thing.

What are the preschool suggesting as an approach? I feel they should be holding your hand and helping you here... if they are not forthcoming can you approach them and say you've tried x,y,z - what do they suggest as the next attempt?

Fortunately for us DS (who was a bit younger) responded well to the time out and his "phase" ended relatively quickly. I also always went overboard with attention to the hurt child - have you tried that? Sorry not to be able to help further though as I was very fortunate and it was short lived... but really the preschool should be experienced in this and really should be able to work WITH you both.

specialmagiclady · 19/01/2009 20:10

Oh God - I so know where you're coming from. My boy doesn't even seem to be contrite. That said, he's(we've?) always been bad a Time Out. You just spend so long trying to get him to sit there, you both forget what he's done.

I don't know what to do either. Sorry, wish I could be more help...

TheMags · 19/01/2009 20:36

Have just been looking at reward charts and am going to give this a go. I am willing to try anything in all honesty!

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abbierhodes · 19/01/2009 20:41

I think the reward charts are an excellent idea. Also, make sure he has plenty of positive attention. Are you able to spend time with him without other DCs around?

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