Is this an age thing, stubborness, mummy's boy or just his "thing"

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DS2 is 3 and 7 months.

Wants me to put him to bed every night.

Tells me he loves me a lot, even when I haven't said it first. Ignored DH when he said it yesterday.

Happy with Daddy in the day but come bed time, just wants me.

I usually end up going in and sorting him out. DH didn't always know his little ways but tonight all are covered and DH put him down as DS hadn't done as I asked.

He is crying for me. I could go up and settle him and he would go to sleep fairly quickly. (Is over tired as his DS and DB stoped him napping this aft and we were all running late anyway) But DH would feel I am undermining him. Normally I wouldn't care but DH does have a point about me giving in all the time and DS2 just has to be able to be put to bed by daddy.

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I have been getting something similar in that DH and I 'share' getting DS (3.3) up since he is an early waker-upper ie one gets up with him, one lies in another hour or so. When its my turn I have been greeted lately by a cantankerous 'NO! DONT WANT YOU I WANT DADDY!!' Cue much wailing. Until recently he would wail long enough for DH to intervene. ie he got his way. Ive now put my foot down and basically tell him no, its me, daddy is asleep, get up with me or stay in bed and yowl. And I go. And it is working, slowly. He doesnt really bother wailing much now at all because I dont hang around to listen and DH doesnt get up.

So, noting your giving in all the time comment, I would start getting your DH to put him up on a regular basis and ignore the protests until he gets used to it and accepts it (your DS gets used to it that is, not your DH!)Dont crack and he will get the message.

In theory! But he is 3 so who knows...!

Thanks

It took half an hour and about 5 visits from DH.

I think the way to go is to get DH to do it more often.

Thanks again.

DD does this at 2.5. She will often let daddy put her to bed, but I have to go in and say goodnight and do the last bit. BUT, if she wakes at night, and daddy goes in, she wants me. And nothing will console her apart from me. And the same in the morning. She will lie on the floor crying if daddy tried to get her! 'Noooo, not daddy, go away daddy, want mummy, want mummy! Mama! Mama! mama!' At first, we used to give in, as I did not want her to be upset. But, as it has continued, DH does the same as oldernotwiser and ignores it, or tell her mummy is in bed. He will then walk into the front room (in an apartment) and tell her he is there for cuddles when she is ready. She still fusses, but with much less conviction now than before, and she knows I wont get up, and DH wont try to stop her tantrum.

Thats not too bad (by our standards that is!) It would be half that if he did it tomorrow too...and just think, you can sit downstairs with a glass of wine and listen

x-posted with yours! Well done, thats really good!

He used to do all the bedtime stuff and then I would go up to actually put him into bed and took him in, put his socks on, shut the door just the right way....

As per, when he doesn't nap in the day, DS2 is crying. Have to go.

DD will only go to sleep with me at night, needs me and only me ... then in the day when she is playing with daddy she's horrified to see me: 'No mummy, good bye, mummy!' Not to be taken too seriously. It all balances out.

dd 5.4 still much prefers me. She will wait and wait for me to come to her (after I have finished putting ds 2.4 to sleep - who incidentally also only wants me!), sometimes falling off by herself waiting, rather than let dh soothe her.

Here we go.

Night 2.

I told him when getting him ready that Daddy was putting him to bed.

Have been up and cuddled him.

Dh just gone up to put him back into bed.

Had to give in as dinner was ready. Hadn't known what Dh was doing and we both lost it with him.

New plan for tomorrow.