DH won't stop screaming at dcs - help please

[winterblues]

Especially our 4 year old ds. Our ds is being unbelievably difficult and it is unbearably stressful but my dh keeps losing his temper and screaming at him. This is imo making the situation worse. I have no problem with the type of discipline my husband suggests, e.g. time outs and the like. It is the way he flies off the handle before dragging him to a time out that I hate and resent. I am so so depressed about all of this. I feel out of control of my ds and bitterly resent my dh for losing the plot constantly. I really really don't know what to do. My dh says he feels bad about it but carries on doing it.

You mentioned serious money problems, bereavement, sleep deprivation -
each of those issues on its own can push a relationship to the brink!
Believe me, I know.

Go easy on yourselves. You have NOT failed.

winter hun you are not failures,

but you are having a tough time.

we are here to listen, and maybe even help if we can.

Do try to stop him shouting. My ex was like this and the kids hated it. I have tackeld him head on re this a number of times and he has modified his behavior but i did even consider taking the kids and leaving him when they were younger if he didnt stop. One time i actually leant over him when he was sitting down and shouted in his face so he could see what it felt like - he did get the message and didnt do it after that

I really feel for you with PND and all thats on your plate already. FWIW though I think your DH is being reactive, as are your DCs and you sound like the only one there with a bit of insight.
I'm afraid if you don't take the lead with some positive action then all your family problems are going to snowball.
I know it's not fair and you could do with some serious comforting yourself, but when emotions run high, thinking capacity is low. If you can model the 3 techniques I mentioned you might find, as a curious byproduct, that you feel better in yourself.
It's worth trying as it might break the cycle and if not, you won't have made it any worse.