Help - I think my 6 year old is having some kind of break down

[twinnymumof3]

Hi - am desperate for help. I have 3 ch , 6 yr old twins and a 9 year old and have never experienced anything like this before. One of my daughters seems to have changed overnight. She won't settle at night without huge amounts of reassurance lasting hours into the evening, she is waking through the night every hour, she is scared of everything, doesn't want to go to school and says she is so lonely. I am totally at a loss. HAve spoken to school as I feel her self esteem is really low due to her school work . I have spoken to the health visitor who was good with practical issues but we are so worried about her. Should we put her in a class with her twin? we were really sure we wanted them seperate as they are totally identical and if we moved her there would be no going back but anything would be better than this surely? Has anyone else gone through anything similar and if so what did you do? ANY help very welcome.

I am sorry that I cant say anything very 'expert', but I am a twin and I would say that maybe she is experiencing some sort of trauma from being separated from her twin. Can she not be put back with her and see if she imporves? Have you asked her what the matter is?
I feel a huge sense of loss when my sister is away or on holiday and I am 30. And not identical. Maybe identical twins feel this more.

And now as an adult I feel I always need to be with people. I am no good at being by myself.

Have you checked with the school or any clubs that she is going to taht there is nothing else going on e.g. bullying?

My ds gets a bit like this when they do something at school that he has struggled with. Instead of asking for help, he just gets anxious about it. I don't think he likes to admit that he didn't understand something.