Star Charts/Rewards ?

[lulu41]

I am going to start a star chart for my dd next week she is 5.5 and her behaviour is becoming a problem mains issues being getting ready for school, not clearing up toys and stroppy/rude behaviour.

I have never used one before and I was wondering what others did re rewards - I dont want to insist that there are stars every day in all 3 boxes in order for her to get a reward but whas it the what do others do ie. how many stars do you reward for?

What do others use as their treats?

Any suggestions welcome - very worn down by her behaviour and my own if I am totally honest

Bumping for you.

When I started my DS sticjer chart I must admit I was a bit OTT about when I gave him stickers. Anything he done right/really well I gave him a sticker. Just to get him used to being praised rather than told off. Then I gradually started being a bit more 'stricter' in a way and only gave him stickers when he REALLY deserved one.
It depended what I had or could afford ref treats but it could of been anything form a book, small toy, stickers, going out to the park, etc. Make it what your dd would really like & enjoy it doesnt have to be something big or expensive.
I found the reward chart worked really well, another reason why my DS didnt get as many stickers in the end as his behaviour really improved and it slowly becomes second nature to them. He still has it on the fridge now but it deosnt get used as much.
I gave him a treat if he had a sticker a day but do it however you feel best theres no right or wrong way.

Good luck x

Star charts worked well for ds. Rather than set daily rewards, I did it weekly and ds had to get a certain number to get a treat. That meant that if he had a not so good day, he could still make it up.

Rewards were relatively small - choose a dvd to hire and get ice creams/pop corn and snuggle up together, trip to a special park etc.

Like mel, he got used to being reawrded and made a fuss of for good behaviour and we stopped it after about a month.

Thanks for your posts they are helpful what I am a little worried about is whether if I do get an improvement with the star chart will she just revert back to previous behaviour if not benig rewarded?

Lulu, star charts and similar are great if used properly and you are right to thnik about these things. Very smart of you. My MSc is in behavioural procedures used like this and I use similar with my own children.

Key is to define criteria clerly so your children know what they are working for and to tweak it carefully so that they gradually have to do more (quantitively or qualitatively to get a reward). The rewaRD HAS TO BE SOMETHING THEY REALLY really want so stars might not work for long. My system is that when they have earned 7 stars, they choose something (actually we choose it at the beginning of the week and I get a tinyt picture of it and stick it on the star chart. Chocolate is partic. powerful for s as I never buy sweets.

For a fun and easy to read guide to this fiels may I recommend Don't shoot the dog which, despite its jokey title is sopt on academically and theoretically with regards to increasing desired behaviour.