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difficult 15 mth baby- I need to vent

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moneli · 09/01/2009 21:21

My ds has always been an 'emotional' baby, never placid, but recently things seem to be getting worse and worse. It's probably just his age and it could be teething but it's driving me slightly mad with frustration. After months of going to sleep easily at night he's started really playing up at bedtime and naptime. We tried cc-ing and after a few nights it worked and he started going to sleep easily for about a week, but now he seems to have forgotten how to do that again and just screeches at bedtime. If we stay in with him when he goes to sleep he wakes up as soon as we leave and we're back at stage one, so we pretty much control cry every night which doesn't feel nice. He also wakes up crying (where he used to wake up babbling happily). We had friends round today with their babies (3 x same age) and while they all seemed to play nicely and keep themselves entertained my ds was OK for about an hour or so but then just 'lost it' and was crying and wanted to be picked up, but then wanted to be put back down and basically didn't know what he wanted. Every situation like this I find myself making excuses for him (he's teething, he's hungry etc) because I feel slightly embarrassed to admit this is just what he's like. I have lots of help; my dh hasn't gone back to work yet since Christmas but is that always a help? We agree we're going to stick to the routine, kind of ride this behaviour out, but then when putting ds to bed dh takes almost an hour and a half trying to cajole him to sleep. Isn't consistency important?? When he's not crying or angry ds is lovely; very bright and sociable and cuddly and chatty. It's just that he's emotionally all over the place. I guess this is normal for babies who have always been a bit more demanding than others but please tell me it'll get easier! BTW his routine is wake up around 6.30am, nap 12 - 2.30, bed 7 - 7.30

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moneli · 10/01/2009 19:30

Thanks for the advice all. Will invest in a nursery rhyme CD; if only to not have to listen to myself. Ds in bed by 6.50 and asleep by 7.10, but not without usual amount of crying. Wish I could desensitize myself to it

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meandjoe · 10/01/2009 19:57

i have never been able to desensitize myself to it. i'm not sure i'd want to really. i look at people with screaming babies in pushchairs and mums breezing along seemingly unaware. i always think 'how the hell do you do that???' i always faff to placate him asap.

missmapp · 10/01/2009 20:04

By the way, dont get stressed if friends babies seem so much more contented, playing well for an hour seems great, ds2 is 15mths and he doesnt play for that long! Remember, dont panic if yours are being difficult, it will pass and dont gloat if yours are being wonderful it will pass! Keep going, you will get though this stage

LEMONADEGIRL · 10/01/2009 20:39

my ds 2.3 can be a nightmare some days. He has never been the sort to sit and play quietly on his own. Has always wanted to be off exploring or wanting me to play with him.

I am so used to it these days that it doesnt bother me. Though yesterday when I had toc arry him screamong out of a library because he was having a tatrum I did want the ground to swallow me up.

I ended up taking the cot side off when he was about 16 mths and turning it into a toddler bed. It worked wonders,getting him to settle and wonder if he disliked the sides. Some people may think he was too young and I did put pillows all around in case he fell out though this only happened twice. Now he goes to bed like a dream ans sleeps through which I thought would never happen.

MadamDeathstare · 10/01/2009 20:46

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moneli · 11/01/2009 13:38

Thank you for all the good advice and words of reassurance!

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