A few weeks ago ds1 pooed his pants twice in one day, it was children in need day so it was felt that maybe with all the excitement he just didn't get there in time the first time but after the second time I was called in to take him home. This was all before lunch.
That was the friday, he was fine all weekend then he pooed his pants again on the monday, they waited until the end of the day to tell me and it was suggested that maybe he had a bug and so keep him off. I did, for 2 days. He was absolutely fine at home, I kept all activity to a minimum so he would be eager to go back.
Then he did it again about 4 days later. So this time I get called in for a chat with the teacher. I had spoken to ds but he couldn't (wouldn't) give me a reason. I thought maybe he assumed he could go home if he pooed his pants. Big chat followed and lots of promises from him.
Now it has started again, apparently this week on monday (wet pants) tuesday (dry because I probably put the fear of God into him) and today (pooed his pants again) he has gone to the toilet every 30 minutes sometimes twice in one lesson.
He wiggles around so WE think he needs to go but he often says he doesn't so by the time he admits he needs to go he is desperate. When we are about to go somewhere we often tell him to try to have a wee before we get in the car but he doesn't do a wee (surely there can be a tiny amount he needs to wee out???)
We know when he needs a poo as we can hear him tap dancing in the bathroom he is so desperate.
He is in yr1, last year (and in preschool) he had fab, experienced teachers. This year he has a very young teacher. He tells me that he likes her (I personally don't like her because I don't think she gets my highly sensitive, shy son) and he has friends to play with.
He was bullied previously but told me all about it and school acted immediately, this was in reception.
Please help me I am at my wits end. I don't know if he has a medical problem or psychological problem.