How to I explain in a way that isn't going to sound horrible, that Flamechick's friend is erm, a bit of a fantasist?

[Flamespar]

Lovely lovely kid, would happily look after 100 of her.

But she has a very active imagination, and tells DD things that I know are not true - from the basic pretending that DD takes seriously ("chewing gum" at school which was tissue), to announcements of birthday parties etc.

At the moment DD is most upset that she hasn't got an invite to her birthday party (a very elaborate description of the party has been given, she has told DD she can come). Her birthday isn't for another 9 months...

How do I explain to DD that not everything she is told is always entirely true, without it going back as "My mum says you is a liar"???

how old are they?

5/6

Explain to her that some people like to make their life seem more exciting by having big plans all the time. Also explain that such big plans have a way of changing from one day to the next, and that she should wait until nearer the time re the b/day party and not do anything with her friend that she isn't comfortable doing (eg chewing "gum"). You would be giving her license to be patient with her friend, whilst also giving her the space to say no to the worst excesses. I don't think using the words lie or fib would necessarily be helpful, and such comments ime have a way of getting back to the target's parents...

I would emphasise what a fantastic imagination this girl has and what wonderful stories she tells. Suggest that Flamechick joins in. Then they can weave a wonder-web together. At this age they are prob able to tell fact from fantasy and pointing out that a birthday is 9m away and the party won't happen until much nearer the time should help, but meanwhile perhaps they could have party in fairyland etc.

Did Flamechick ever have an imaginary friend? If so, maybe explain in those terms... you know how some people have imaginary friends that they pretend are real, well your friend sometimes does or plans imaginary things...

tricky... could you describe it as 'sometimes x likes to pretend and she gets a little carried away and forgets to tell you it's a game' ?

sorry, not much good at this stuff...... although have a suspician dd is turning into x as she's not yet 4 and can come up with madly inventive stories that's she swears are true..... she had me convinced there was a child called colleen at playschool when we were writing xmas cards... even though i was 99% sure there wasn't i ended up helping her write a card to colleen and having to ask the teacher if she was real she was so convincing

Tell her that her friend is very excited about her birthday and is just getting it all planned out for now but that it won't be until after the summer - a long long time away?

my dd's friend does this too. She tells dd that she has x-ray eyes and is watching dd all the time and during the school day she uses her eyes to tell dd what I am doing. Shopping apparently! I am not sure whether to find it amusing or sinister as dd issometimes worried at home that her friend will see her doing something at the weekend/ home. I try and find it amusing and tell dd that her friend DOES NOT have X ray eyes and cannot see her and cannot see me. I try and keep it lighthearted, "Oh, xxx is such a Joker isn't she" "well I wasn't shopping I was at work so xxx eyes don't work very well " etc .. I am not sure if her friend is using it as a means of control OR just has a vivid imagination. They are only 5..I am monitoring it!

Lol we get this a bit I just say

I always says 'we can think about it nearer the time' be it invites to prties where all the wwe wrestlers are going or to cinema trips where other kids grandpas book the entire cinema