DS1 is 6 and school report says he is capable but lacks focus and can't complete work on time, is easily distracted, very bad handwriting, etc. DH and I have noticed that he also has a lack of awareness of others' feelings at times and doesn't realise when he is annoying his friends and sometimes just doesn't think, eg. he headbutted his aunt this weekend when they were playing (roughly admittedly) and really hurt her. He never does anything when you tell him to, it takes many attempts to get him to brush his teeth, get dressed, etc. We have found out that he may need grommets but this is more than just a hearing problem, I think.
He has a very good memory, can concentrate on computer games or TV for hours if we let him but really struggles to sit and write or read anything. He spends more time arguing as to why he shouldn't do it than actually doing it. When he interacts with friends, he often makes things up from his imagination. (He used to have imaginary friends when he was younger). He doesn't tell lies, but will talk to them about movies or video games but when I listen I realise he is making up the plot lines! I can see that already this makes some of his friends uncomfortable because they don't know what he's talking about. I'm probably being paranoid but I'm desperate for him not to be thought of as "that weird kid". He does have some friends but when I say to him that he should go along with what others want to do sometimes, he says he doesn't care if he has friends and he's happy on his own. I know that a couple of the kids in his class are rough with him sometimes but he tells me he doesn't mind. That breaks my heart. Am I worrying unduly? Sorry for the long post. This is my first one. Also, am newly pregnant with baby no. 3 so probably over-emotional! Any advice/thoughts appreciated...