What's the best way to deal with 16month old who screams to get what she wants?

[Thomcat]

It's no massive biggie, but it's not terribly nice and not very fair on her sisters, or my childminder and her mindees.

She is the youngest of 3, her sisters are - just turned 7 but with SN's so has development age of about 3 and her other sister has just turned 3.

When DD3 started tottering around and playing her sisters would often take the toy from her which I have now taught them not to do. However now DD3 is really starting to try and exert her authority and make sure she's not the walked over youngest child! So now if she sees one of her sisters with a toy and she wants it she'll just scream and scream until her poor sisters either give it to her or something else distracts her.

I've started to say to DD3 'no' and pick her up and remove her from the situation - cue mass crying. However I work and it's going to be the problem of the childminder and her mindess as well which is such a shame.

How would you deal with teaching her she can't have everything she wants? Is it just a matter of saying no, removing her to another room if needs be and waiting for her to be able to be more vocal and stop screaming and apologising to childminder?!

Ignore it and remove yourself from room till she stops..only for the sake of your poor eardrums lol.
Praise her when she asks nicely?
Never had experience of this so this is just a suggestion

My 16 month old can't speak at all yet. She only says 'mama' and a handful of other words hence screaming when she wants her sisters to hand over the toy they are playing with.

Just say when you stop screaming Mummy will talk to you....... She'll understand even if she can't speak much at the moment.You'll need to make an exagerated gesture of "ignoring" her too,like not facing her,or leaving the room etc.

But she's screaming at her sisters not me. Can't think of a time she screamed at me. She is in front room with her sisters, DD2 will pick up toy x and DD3 decides she wants it so screams. I go in thinking someone has lost a limb and realise what has happened.

Just wondering if saying to her 'no DD3, no' is enough.

Or try "No Screaming DD3 or you will have to stop playing."
and if she continues you'll have to follow through and remove her from the "playing area".

Sit with her and say if you stop screaming you can go and play again.

If you are really consistent over the next few days she should understand you mean it,and she'll want to continue playing.

Works with my DD1 and DD2.

ignore/distract

ignore/distract

ignore/distract

ad infinitum, till it hurts