Are we spoiling 6mo dd???

[lauraloola]

Dp asked today if he thinks we are too soft on dd. I say yes straight away. He makes me sound awful when I leave dd to cry if there is nothing wrong with her so for the last 2 weeks I have picked her up each time as he has been home.

She is only 6mo but is very stubborn and has tantrums - Screams and throws her arms around. She also hits when she is angry.

I cant believe I am writing this about a 6mo but has anyone else had this??? From tomorrow I am not going to pick her when she cries unless there is something wrong and instead occupy her with her toys etc.

laura, i know you'e no troll, i've seen you on loads of posts before and i believe you to be genuine. my ds had temper tantrums at about this age, i still picked him up. it is frustration causing her to cry, she can't help it, she just feels sad and angry, she still needs your comfort. i used cuddle ds and say "awww ds, i know you want to do x and you're little body won't let you but one day you'll be able to do x, y z and then you will be so happy and mummy will be so proud of you" then distract like a looney! he needed my comfort because not being able to do thing upset him so deeply, it still does now but i can distract him better now and also he can do more so is slightly less difficult!

Glad to see you have seen sense - she is still a baby, please don't think about the concept of spoiling such a young baby

Thank you.

For those of you who have had 'angry' babies did they have lots of tantrums when they were older?

Meandjoe - I will do that from now on ie cuddle her and explain. I think distraction will help too. She has loads of new Christmas toys so that should be good fun!

My dd is nearly 8mths. They are at a stage now where they are realising there is a world around them and finding their own little personality. My dd screams bluw murder every time we put her vest on -if we are both there, one of us dances and sings to distract her. If it is just me, I sing and try to do it as quickly as possible and then give her hugs and kisses.

The hitting out is perfectly normal too. They are working out how to use their hands and arms. DD is always whacking me in the face, pinching and grabbing at me. If it hurts, I just move her hand away.

If she is unhappy about something, pick her up, give her a hug and distract her with something else. If you are really tired/stressed out, I always find that cbeebies is a great distraction.