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dd has gone off me over xmas.

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ilovetochatupsanta · 02/01/2009 20:34

dd is a bit of a daddys girl and always runs to him when he gets in from work and he baths her.
dp has been off for 2 weeks over xmas and dd has loved it following him around wanting daddy to do breakfast, play, stories etc.
now she doesn't want me to pick her up or do anything for her at all, she just cries for daddy.
dp goes back to work monday and i'm dreading it, she will probably cry allday.
she won't kiss or hug me.

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NAB3lovelychildren · 02/01/2009 20:36

It isn't that she has gone off you but she is wondering where her Daddy is. MY youngest really missed his DB and DS when they went back to school and also at the last break couldn't understand where Daddy had gone.

singyswife · 02/01/2009 20:36

She will be absolutely fine when daddy goes to work. It is just the novelty of having him home. I wouldnt make a big thing out of him getting all the attention as she has probably noticed that you are not happy with it and is playing on that a bit. I wouldnt worry too much, she still loves you.

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ilovetochatupsanta · 02/01/2009 20:38

i think she is playing on it, if i fetch her a drink she says no daddy do it and if i ask for a hug she hugs daddy. little bugger
i just hope it hasn't made her clingy.

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piscesmoon · 02/01/2009 20:43

I wouldn't worry about it-she will soon get back to normal.

Sycamoretree · 02/01/2009 20:52

Please don't worry. We have the opposite in our house as I work FT and DH is SAHD, so I am the complete novelty over holidays which I can see can be hard to DH sometimes - the DC's cling to me and only want me if they are upset, or to play with them. It'll be tough when I go back to work on Monday, but the status quo will return soon enough.

She's just topping up on Daddy time whilst she can - try not to take it personally.

meandjoe · 02/01/2009 21:01

totally the same here. ds has had his daddy at home for 18 days over christmas, following him around, wanting all his attention all the time. i just saw it as a nice break ! now he's back at work he's fine though, he grizzled when dh said bye bye to him and tried to latch on to his coat and cuddle him but we distracted him with the christmas tree and by the time dh had pulled out the drive way, ds was a mummy's boy again. it is just the novelty of it. she adores you don't worry!

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ilovetochatupsanta · 02/01/2009 21:30

thank you all, i hope you are right!
i think dp will be going back to work looking forward to a rest after having to do everything,
just realised i still have my xmas name, must go and change back.
hi meandjoe [waves]

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pavlovthecat · 02/01/2009 21:35

DD has days like this, for a while it would be several days at a time, and would be daddy for a couple of days, then me for a couple of days. Now she has the odd day, but mostly she has the odd hour or two, when only one or other of the us, and for that time she wlll refuse anything from the other. We do not take it to heart now, but at first we used to be really upset and wonder what we had done wrong. But its nothing.

And when I spend a whole day with her she is really clingy with me, and same with DH too. try to to worry, it sounds normal to me.

Leo9 · 02/01/2009 21:37

They cut their coat according to their cloth; she will adapt. Wouldn't worry at all, personally.

ilovetochat · 02/01/2009 21:41

thanks all, 2 more days of peace then, i'l relax and get the wine ou

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