Please help me tame my 13 month old!

[tryingtobemarypoppins]

He is very very energentic! Lovely but has started to become a nightmare! He throws his food on the floor, won't go in his car seat and pushchair without a major fuss, screams when having his nappy changed as he doesn't want to stay still etc etc.

All he wants to do is run around putting the lids on things, run after the ducks and be very social.

I sometimes think he is a bit lonely as if we have a whole morning at home he is a nightmare, get to toddler group and he is very happy.

He has just started to drop his early morning nap in favour of a late morning one so getting me dressed is almost impossible as he wants my attention all the time.

Firstly can someone tell me if this is normal!

Secondly, how do you structure your morning, when and how do you get ready?

Thirdly, how can I manage his behaviour?

My husband won't even consider a brother or sister as he thinks we, well I won't cope!

My DS is lovely just very constant!

Any help gratfully recieved!

aww thank you marypoppins that's very kind of you! i am a bit confused about the sort of training i actually need to do, there seems to be lots of different names for it ie/ pgce, qts and i am too confused as to what i actually need to do so it doesn't bode well for me actually completing the course if i am confused already .
sounds like you really want another baby but remember that for the first year he dc2 won't be a playmate as leo says, it'll be full on and i couldn't cope for a day but maybe you could. my mum had my brother and sister very close together, my sister (the oldest was very very active and a hand full, my brother was very placid, she coped but my brother and sister have never been close and still aren't 'friends', more sort of 'civil' to eachother! it all depends on the circumstances and the nature of the next baby which is completely out of anyone's control which is what wold scare me! i have decided ds will either be an only child or will deffinitely wait til he's at full time school!

Marypoppins - there is a 2.5 year gap between my 2 boys - DS2 is just 6 weeks old and it has been the hardest 6 weeks of my life - mainly because DS1 is so boisterous/energetic etc.

Fortunately DS2 is a very calm, contented baby most of the time and sleeps well (well, by that I mean he only wakes up twice in the night and feeds and goes straight back to sleep) - I hate to think how harder it would have been if true sleep deprivation was thrown into the mix aswell.

Although I obviously don't regret having DS2 as he is just the most gorgeous thing, I do wonder if we had known how hard it was going to be whether we would have had another child Life had just begun to settle down to a nice routine with DS1, he was able to look after himself more and communicate with us etc - now everyone's life has been thrown into turmoil again.

Tbh, one of the reasons we wanted a second child is what you said - DS1 was crying out for a playmate but I completely underestimated that DS2 is not going to be that 'playmate' for quite a few months yet - in the meantime, I am constantly on edge having to protect DS2 from DS1 all the time, can't relax until DS1 is in bed...very very tiring. I actually spend quite a lot of time wishing away DS2's babyhood to a time when he is more grown up and can play

However, there have been some lovely moments...they love having baths together and seeing DS2's face when he is lying in his bath support whilst DS1 is chucking gently scooping water over him is truly heartmelting and DS1 is always giving DS2 kisses and is clearly so proud of him - DS1 runs into our room in the morning and goes straight to DS2.

Sorry this is an essay - it is just a topic close to my heart at the moment!

Ceebee74 Congratulations! Those special moments sounds so wonderful. I can only imagine how much hard work it is.So many people have said the first year is very hard then it gets much better. I kind of feel that my DS can't totally be in control of my life and if we want another baby he will have to learn to love it! I can see how much of the first year will be spent in the park, new baby cosy in the pram and toddler running of the energy!

Does you DS1 go to nursery? Just wondering if this would give you a break? I think if we did have another baby I would keep my DS going to my mums and nursery, firstly to keep his routine the same and secondly to allow me to have time with a new born etc.

Marypoppins - god yes!! DS1 goes to nursery 4 days a week (just as he did when I was working - pretty much for the same reason as you - to keep his routine plus he absolutely loves nursery and playing with his friends) and there is no way I would cope without this respite - and fortunately my maternity pay scheme at work allows us to be able to afford to carry on with it! The plan was to drop it to 3 days (obviously the spare money would come in handy) but at the moment, I need the break for 4 days and it is lovely to chill out with DS2 for a few days a week plus far easier to get errands done with a baby rather than a toddler and a baby! We probably will drop it to 3 days when I feel more in control iyswim.

I do agree that if you want another baby, absolutely have one and your DS will have to learn to adjust - I also heard that it takes a year so only another 46 weeks to go.....