3yo pissing on the naughty step

[apostropheelingchristmassy]

It had been quite effective until this evening. He deliberately weed on the naughty step, as his pyjamas weren't wet, so he must have pulled them down.

Not sure how to discipline him, he's being very unruly at the moment, and having particularly wild spates. He seems to behave worse than his peers, and people are starting to comment on his behaviour in group situations - he doesn't seem to be mean or spiteful to other kids, he just does daft things like picking up trays of pencils and emptying them on the floor. I sent him to the naughty step as he was sitting on my lap reading and he turned round and pulled my hair and knocked my glassess off .

my ds1 did this (although in his room, not on step). I then used the bathroom as the naughty step.

I would make him "help" you to clean it up!

I would go a long way to avoid confrontation with a child like this; obviously he harbours alot of anger and he has found that he likes the feeling of retaliating.

With the reading, when he turned round and pulled your hair etc; if that was me I would have made the consequence simply that he loses his nice time on your lap with a book - "oh, no more book unless you can sit nicely". I wouldn't have gone to the naughty step for that.

What I used with ds was his room for time out. I think possibly that might be less confrontational for you - it's genuine time out, a break, rather than a punishment, which your ds obviously will fight against.

I would concentrate on giving things a natural consequence rather than a punishment. EG tipping all the pencils out - the craft stuff goes away.

perhaps warning of taking fave toys away and then follow through alongside a reward scheme for good behaviour

I agree with Leo - makes a lot of sense to me

We do much the same as Leo - send DD (4.3)to her room 'until she calms down and can be sensible' (and is ready to apologize if she's been a real moo!) rather than as a specific punishment.