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What has happened to my daughter?

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NAB3hundredChristmaslights · 28/12/2008 16:58

She has turned into a defiant little madam who is rude to Dh and I, mean to her brothers and will not stop when we ask her to give up annoying them.

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MrsWeasleyStrokesSantasSack · 28/12/2008 16:58

age?

Frizbe · 28/12/2008 16:58

Age?

WishItWouldSnow · 28/12/2008 17:00

whatever her age try not to major on her bad behaviour and focus on your DSs good behaviour

WishItWouldSnow · 28/12/2008 17:00

ie ignore her when she plays up

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NAB3hundredChristmaslights · 28/12/2008 17:01

5

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PlonkerAlkaseltzerInMyGlass · 28/12/2008 17:06

Is she over-tired? Poorly?

Lots of bugs going around plus lots of over-excited, over-tired children around IMO at the mo (and 3 of them are here at my house )

theboob · 28/12/2008 17:06

i have one of these too and she is 6

i have started to give her time outs when i have never needed to before

it's the talking back that gets to me

MrsWeasleyStrokesSantasSack · 28/12/2008 17:11

Ah Yes, Just 5! Dont worry she will grow out of it

when she is 20 I am told I have 7 years and counting

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NAB3hundredChristmaslights · 28/12/2008 17:11

She was early to bed last night as she was up later talking to her DB the night before. She says her throat hurts but this behaviour has really started in the last few weeks and it makes me feel very to see her physically hurting her brothers. DS1 had a scratch all down his face for Christmas Eve.

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PlonkerAlkaseltzerInMyGlass · 28/12/2008 17:19

She could have been ailing for a couple of weeks though NAB so it still could be down to feeling poorly and over-tired

I have a 5 yo who is generally a delight, but has tonsilitis atm and on top of the Christmas excitement is being a right PITA! Bless her.

We do have rules in our house that MUST be followed - one of them is no hitting. Under no circumstances is physical voilence tolerated in our house (even from baby dd3 who just bit poor dd2 ). This is what I would deal with first if I were you.
Be firm, be consistant. Remove dd every time she hurts her db's, tell her 'no' very firmly and then lavish all your attention on the injured party.

I hope you get it sorted

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NAB3hundredChristmaslights · 28/12/2008 17:24

It is a shock to see her faces and have her back chat. We try putting her on the step for cool down time but she hits anyone who walks past, refuses to stay there. Is currently refusing to eat her tea. Dh has said she will sit there until she does but I know she won't eat it and would just remove it and send her for a bath.

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Smithagain · 28/12/2008 20:53

First term at school? All the Reception children I know are behaving dreadfully at the moment. And so did DD1 at this stage.

HollyCherry · 28/12/2008 23:24

DD is 4.3 (just missed out on school this September just gone) I know at least 2 other mums with girls the same age and we are all having this kind of thing at the moment.

I'm inclined to think they're at the peak of picking things up from other kids and using them to test you with but it is sooo bloody hard!

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NAB3hundredChristmaslights · 29/12/2008 15:40

She has just hurt her brother and then stuck out her tongue when I sent her to the step.

She is a madam!

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SecretSlattern · 29/12/2008 15:44

Smithagain is that right? I have a DD who I don't really like very much atm. Her constant arguing, ignoring me, basically fuck you attitude she has to me and DH is really getting me down and tbh, aside from the Christmas thing, it's getting me down. This started waaaaay in advance of Christmas so I don't even that is an excuse for it. You could be on to something though if it is winding down time from school.

I am counting down the days until her return...

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 29/12/2008 15:45

It's an age thing. I have just asked my five year old to get dressed for dancing and was informed that I had given her the wrong turquoise leggings. She needs her other turquoise leggings and I must be stupid if I think she can wear the ones I have just given her She is now putting on the leggings she was given after I threatened to pull ehr out of the xmas play if she spoke to me like that again.

I agree that it comes from the school.

Leo9 · 29/12/2008 16:36

It's not all a problem though IMO. Making faces and sticking her tongue out - she WILL do that if she gets a consequence so don't get agonised about that; it's just what children do when they're powerless. It actually means your consequence is working well. Just ignore it.

At this age she won't just magically stop when told to stop annoying brothers IMO! You need to be more proactive than that I think - distraction is still a key here. Get her on to something else.

I think she sounds very normal (specially for this time of year, they ARE pretty hysterical) and I think it sounds like your strategies are fine TBH!

Smithagain · 29/12/2008 18:37

SecretSlatern - just my experience. But DD1 was a nightmare at this stage after her first term at school. All the Christmas stuff just wore her out completely and it seemed she couldn't sustain the good behaviour she was managing at school when she got home.

And I have two good friends with children in Reception at the moment who are having similar issues.

FWIW, DD1 seemed to get into her stride when she got back to school in January - she'd gained enough stamina to find it less exhausting and the routine was a bit more familiar. But that may have been a coincidence ...

Hang in there!

SecretSlattern · 02/01/2009 11:08

Thanks Smithagain. I am trying hard not to lose it with her but it is very hard . Still only a few more days...

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