so far i've managed him by taking away a favourite toy/whatever it is he's using innapropriately etc
Just lately he has started being more aggressive, hitting out (i can see he is doing this out of frustration), shouting and saying 'don't talk to me' when he is told off for being naughty.
This morning he has added 'i'm not happy' to his repertoire......
He has been very rough with the dogs just lately and i am struggling to get him to stop. He was shining a very strong torch in their eyes earlier.....i told him not to as it hurt their eyes. He played on his own with it for a while then started shining it in the dogs faces again, he was told to stop it or i would remove the torch.He then started banging it on the sofa very close to the nose of one dog. So i took it off him. He then started shouting at me to give it back, i said no and walked away. So he kicked me, refused to apologise, kicked me again....at which point i said if you kick me again you will have to sit on the step. He thought very hard about that statement..........then kicked me.
He went on the step for 3 minutes......got up a couple of times, i put him back without speaking to him. He then sobbed and was saying 'i'm not naughty' which he always says when he has been told off.
When the three minutes were up i went and got him, asked him if he knew why he'd been on the step and he said because he'd kicked me and hurt the dogs.
I was shaking afterwards......but i've reached a point with his behaviour where i need to have a definitive approach. None of the old methods are working anymore.
I wasn't keen to 'naughty step' but it appeared to have worked......
has anyone got advice/tips on what to do or not to do to make this an effective way of dealing with his temper/defiance.