My 8 month old won't go to bed.

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I'm starting to get a bit concerned now, as my little boy will only go to sleep if my partnr or I are holding him.

He used to fall asleep on his own on playmats or even in his moses basket, but he's now getting more nad more clingy to the point where he only falls asleep in our arms.

Also, more recently he's started screaming if he wakes up in the night. and if he wakes up in his cot and we don't bring him into bed with us, on the occasions that he's in a good mood, he'll stand up in his cot and jump up and down.

The times when I've put him down to sleep when drowsy, he wakes up and starts giggleing. I know I'm not helping matters by continuing to cuddle him to sleep, but I don't know what else to do.

My 8 month old is the same. Don't know the solution!

my son was in my room until he was 8 months old, then i moved him into his own room. I cuddled him to sleep until just after his first birthday and then tackled getting him to soothe himself to sleep.

I would just stay by his cot, stroke his head or pat his tummy or use a lightshow - dont speak to him or look at him but let him know you are there he will soon get used to sleeping on his own and settling himself then when he wakes he will re settle himself.

If you keep to it he should be fine with the new routine within a week ime.

You also need to put him down before he gets overtired. I currently care for an 8 mth old and he naps between 9ish to 10ish then again 12.15 to 2.30ish (sometimes he wakes and won't re-settle himself so i go up and shhhh and put my hand on his tummy and pat him and he goes back off for another hour or so) then he has another nap about 4.30 ish to about 5.20ish. Hth

On a personal note I co-slept with dd1 and found it hard work to gte her in her own bed later with dd2 we never co slept and so she's always been fine in her own cot/ bed/ room because that's all she's ever known so my advice there is to stop co-sleeping at all if you don't want to choose it as your prefered option because he is getting confused imo.