Do you praise your children enough?

[noiamnot]

Because I don't. And I realized this recently by how much ds2's face lit up when I gave him a big dose of praise.

I'm thinking it works a lot better than giving out to them about what they do wrong.

Focus on what they do right\well.

I think I do actually. I always try and say three good things to one bad thing (and try and limit the bad things to guidance rather than criticism.) But it is really hard isn't it?

DD is 2 and some days she's such a little wotsit, it's really hard to see that she's trying!

Yes. Loads.

Too much according to them. 'Oh stop going on about it mummy' is a frequent cry in our house. I tell them off quite a bit too so it evens itself out.

Yes praise them lots on a daily basis.

Was never praised as a child and i know how shit it made me feel. Even if they have not been particuarly good i try to find something nice to say about them.

equal doses of both which i find works great.

if your naughty or don't do what is asked of you - then you get chastised

however if you do - you get praise.

another - along the same lines of pointing out the bleedin' obvious is using good manners. I think as your children get older, we can sometimes forget - when they are younger we are forever saying "say thank you" my ds has pulled me a couple of times recenlty - becuase although i think the silent thankyou is implicit in my tone ( iykwim) i should say the words.

Yes. I am an embarrassment and I also say "I love you" so many times a day that now they just sigh, in exasperated manner.

I dont consiously do it, I just do what comes naturally.
I'm pretty sure I praise more than I chastise!

no

I do tell them off when they don't behave but try not to do it at the end of the day at bedtime etc..

DD2 and i always tell Dd1 we love her as shes going into nursery.I have never seen the other mums doing that Bet she tells me off soon for doing it!!

at times I feel like I am forever giving out to them.

I have finally copped on that it is counter-productive.

The boys would drop dead if I ever said I love you in front of anyone, especially at school.

I still tell ds1 who is 17 i love him too. In fact i said it last night before he went to The Game concert,his mates were there and he wasn't bothered. Just gave me a quick kiss and scarpered lol

I did say it in the context of have a good time/be careful/love you IYSWIM?