DD age 2yr 5 months biting - she has just bitten my friends 4 month old on the head!

[josben]

I am soooo and I thought DD had come out of this 'phase'? She hasn't bitten that much in the past - but i had felt the need to speak to the health visitor about it and she said it was a phase that she would grow out of .... BUT she has just done it again - and i feel like crying i feel so bad about it.

I think that DD may have been a bit jealous of the baby - although I'm not sure that it was malicious - she was kissing the baby before it happened! She has 2 older DS's and DD does get jealous of them and everything at the moment is 'mine'

I dealt with it by telling her off and giving her a time out in her room... Not sure that was the right way to deal with it though...?

My friend left fairly soon after it happened - (not surprisingly)

I have given DD a firm talking too telling her is is not acceptable - But i am still so angry with her ....

What would you have done?

DS is going through a biting/pushing/smacking/pinching/scratching phase.

I say I know you're frustrated/tired/jealous whatever but we don't hit do we. Then I ask him to say sorry but he doesn't always do it. Then if I know the child well I give it a big fuss.

DD did say sorry to my friends baby - and she knew she had done wrong... I guess it is a phase but its all a bit stressful! Especially when DS1 and DS2 were so gentle - timid even - i've gone from one extreme to the other!

I wouldn't worry about it, it's normal toddler behaviour. My dd did exactly the same thing to her new baby brother. We had been pleasantly surprised by how good she was with him then one day she went to kiss him and suddenly he was yelling. Then we saw the teeth marks on his little hand. I think he was probably being all cute and smiley and getting all the attention and she just thought "right, I'm going to make him cry then he won't be so cute anymore."

I think all you can do is keep telling them it's not acceptable etc and they will eventually stop doing it. Your dd is still little.

Was it your friend's first baby? Just wondered - I took these things better with my third dc, who was dragged off to toddler groups aged 1 week and got other toddlers' snot on her face, toys dropped on her head etc etc.

It is very normal, but friend with tiny baby is unlikely to believe that.

I would tell her off firmly. and use time out or similar. but not get too anguished about it.

my dd3 came back from Preschool yesterday and told me about her day "T pushed me over and G bit me, but I didn't push anyone". A year ago she was constantly in trouble for pushing other toddlers over. luckily she's grown out of it.