11 month old needing " too much" sleep.

[pamelat]

Am a little bit concerned about my soon to be 11 month old.

Until she was 5 months she would rarely sleep for more than 30 mins and wake all night.

Since that time things improved and she was having 30 mins in the morning, an hour and a half at lunch and 11 hours at night - about "normal".

Anyway, she learnt to crawl 2 weeks ago and this coincided with a nasty cold. She spent 2 weeks waking at night for an hour or so.

She has now recovered from her cold but is so tired and grumpy.

She is sleeping 12 hours at night (am ok with that) but then an hour in the morning (where I then wake her and she is ok) and then at lunch she is sleeping 2 hours and I wake her but she is still tired and grumpy and proceeds to grouch all afternoon. Then tonight I put her back to bed at 545pm!!

I would imagine she will now sleep through.

I am waking her at lunch because I am scared of her having too much sleep and not sleeping at night (after 2 weeks of cold/cough night wakings, I dont feel I can restart the night wakings).

So, is the answer to simply let her sleep more? Or is it weird for an 11 month old to need this much sleep?

Also, she is not eating or drinking properly because she is too tired (but not ill) She has no temperature and is fine playing/crawling etc, just a bit grumpy and yawning/eye rubbing.

I think I have answered my own Q and will let her wake naturally tomorrow lunch but still interested to see what you think about hours wise?

She probably hasn't fully recovered from her cold. I'm always surprised how long it takes dd to recover.

My dd is 4 and she sleeps from 7.00pm to 8.00 or 9.00am every day at the moment. I'm just making the most of it!

Let her sleep. A cold is a virus, and people are often easily tired out after a virus.

BTW, at 11m my champion-sleeper ds1 was sleeping45min-1h in the morning, 2-2.5h in the afternoon, and up to 12h at night. Without having had a cold .

Oh ok thank you, at least I don't need to worry.

I think its because I keep comparing her sleep to when she never slept at all. She is probably catching up from newborn days!

I would wake her in the morning after the hour and then let her sleep to 2h30m in the afternoon, if she is still grouchy but sleeps that night then maybe allow her 2h45m the next afternoon.

The 2 children i am looking after sleep for up to 3 hours and sometimes longer after lunch.

The 9.5m has around 30 minutes in the morning and then the big after lunch sleep and is back asleep by 7.30, she wakes around 7-7.30 typically tho has slept till 7.45 several times with no night resettles.

Her brother is 23m and sleeps 8-7.30/8 and the 3 hours sometimes more in the afternoon.

I wake them if they aren't up by 4 and we do busy activities in the afternoon after bottle/snack so they are ready for supper/bath/story/bed.

My daughter had colic for 4 months morning noon and night....she never slept.
Then after the colic,she suddenly slept 12 hours every night plus one and 2 hour naps during the day!!
After worrying about the colic,I then came to worry about the sleeping.....
I was reassured that she was just catching up on all the sleep she lost in the first months......
make the most of it!!
I would put my daughter to bed at 6pm ,then be in bed myself for 7.30.......it was bliss!

Will do. Its a bit boring when they are asleep so long though isn't it.

I would let her sleep as much as she wants during the day as long as it isn't keeping her up at night. She is using more energy now she is crawling and is getting over a cold. Make the most of it

By the way, I dont just wake her to entertain me!

ooh,I could think of a million things to do whilst baby sleeps....
I would have a right good pamper,starting with a nice hot bath,wash, dry and straighten hair,then I would sprawl out on the sofa with a box of choccies and a bottle of wine and watch drivvel on TV all night long.....and if I,m really bored...I might let my hubby,ravage me.....
hahahahahahaha
I,m not that selfish really

Hello again

Today I let her have alot more sleep. She woke very early at 545am but at 8 she was shattered to back to bed (early) and she slept 2 hours.

I admit I woke her at 10am.I was a bit worried about her and just went in to check she was ok, she must have been in a very light sleep as she woke immediately.

Back to bed 1pm (she was shattered at 12 but we were out) - 2 hours sleep

Right, this is where the problems started again.

3pm she chose to wake up. Refused her afternoon milk (as is often the case, she has probably outgrown this feed but I offer it anyway).

By 4pm, she is shattered, crying, rubbing eyes and also grabbing the back of her head (she has always done this if very tired), but she had only been awake an hour!!

I know I may be being neurotic but is this normal? Am a bit worried about it.

We went out to distract her and she basically "fretted" for an hour, not so much crying as just grumping. I think she is too tired still?

pamelat, this sounds very much like my ds2 (just turned 1). DS1 never napped for more than 20 minutes at a time and didn't sleep through til he was nearly 1 and still gets up at the crack of dawn.

DS2 however, goes to bed about 6.30, sleeps through most days til 7 or 8 am. He's generally back in bed between 9 and 10 and sleeps for about 2 hours. Bit of lunch then back to bed between 1 and 2 for another 2 hours, bit of tea, then bath than back in bed about 6.30. When he's poorly he is acutally asleep more than he's awake in the day and it can take him a good 2 weeks to fully recover. We saw a paediatrician recently about a separate issue and discussed this with her and she said that actually this was a far more healthy sleep pattern for babies this age that to have regimented and timed naps dictated by the parents - many babies live in a state of mild but chronic sleep deprivation because parents feel the need to limit daytime naps to ensure a full nights sleep. Actually it generally has the opposite effect, an overtired baby does not sleep as long or as well. Her advice was so long as he's happy and cheerful when he's awake and is gaining weight (as opposed to guzzling everything offered as different babies have different appetites) carry on letting him sleep.

Stop waking her up!

My DTs are 11 months old and, on average, sleep 11.5-12 hours at night and approx 3 hours in day (45 mins to an hour in morning and two hours sometimes 2.5 hrs at lunch).

They have recently been ill with colds and were sleeping 4 hours plus in day.

I don't let them sleep later than 3pm at lunchtime nap and they go to bed at 7pm. Sometimes though they are ready for bed by 6:30pm and still sleep past 6:30am the next day.

I would just let her do what she wants to do.

If nights start to become a problem, then think about tweaking the day times, but until then, trust her to know what she needs.

For what it's worth, my ds has just turned 2, and will still sleep for 15-16 hours out of 24.

Thanks again,

Am letting her lead duration wise now.

This morning - 1 hour morning nap 9-10am

Lunch - 1pm until ... ?? Its been 2.25 hours already (but the online boden sale is on and I am having fun!)

I want to go Christmas shopping (just for cards and paper) this afternoon but at this rate it will be 5pm before we get anywhere.

I am sure that she has just changed her whole attitude to sleep.

DD still sleeps a lot and she's now 14 months! 12.5 hours at night, 1-2 hours in the morning, 1-2 hours in the afternoon. She goes to nursery Monday to Wednesday and only gets an hour's sleep during the day, so sleeps about 5-6 hours during the day on Thursdays trying to catch up! I don't worry about it really as she's so energetic and happy when she is awake. I think it's good for them to get plenty of sleep.

Thank you cuppachar, but does she still seem tired after sleeping?

I am more worried about how she seems tired and groucy every afternoon despite a 2 hour nap (when seriously she used to be ok after about 20 minutes!)

Its 4pm and she has been asleep since 1pm.

I am going to have to get her up (against advice, sorry) just worried about her now.

She has her tea in an hour!

Hi pamelat. No DD doesn't still seem tired after her naps, but then again I do leave her to wake naturally so I know she's had enough - maybe would be worth trying this? Sometimes she does have a marathon 3 to 3.5 hour nap (especially the day after nursery) but I figure she must need it so I don't worry.

How about trying for a few days letting her nap as long as she wants, but don't let her nap past 5pm (otherwise she might not be ready for her nighttime sleep on time). It seems to work for us (though obv all babies are different...) good luck

Little one I look after is 18months and sleeps hour in morning and up to 3 hours in afternoon. Shes possibly still recovering from cold plus is she more mobile now? Expect that will be tiring her out. As long as its not affecting her night sleep just let her sleep. Will she sleep in the buggy? (just thinking if you needed to be somewhere?) Other wise enjoy the peace, I get all the tasks that need doing done then reward myself with a cuppa tea and a browse on here