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5 year old daughter very moody and lacking confidence - any advice?

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numerouno · 10/12/2008 14:16

My 5 year old dd has always lacked confidence physically (as in she took a lot longer than most to be able to go down a slide or try to climb a climbing frame and never mastered crawling). She did get a lot better but even now when she walks down a flight of unfamiliar steps she will be very nervous and the other day we went to one of her friend's houses and she started crying at the top of the stairs and wouldn't come down without holding my hand.

She is also very moody at the moment but that could be down to end-of-term-itus. She talks back to me and everything I say is a problem unless we are doing something solely for her benefit. She has been much moodier since her little sister came along. I think for a long time she felt pushed out, even though I tried my best to make sure she wasn't. She tested me and my patience continuously for many months and I found it tough. However, her sister is now 22 months and she is better.

She cries at very small things, like if we're walking to school with her friend and she "braves it" and goes on ahead with her friend - but then her much more confident friend moves away too quickly to speak to someone else.

She is so sensitive and I need to help her. How can I help her build her confidence again? Any ideas? We tried ballet but she didn't really like it.

Underneath it all, she's a kind and sweet little girl who has a lot of love to give (crying now...). Any suggestions?

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katiek123 · 10/12/2008 16:59

numerouno you might find 'the highly sensitive child' helpful. recommended by a lot of mums here. my DD was just like this - had a hell of a time with things like playgrounds and slides and climbing frames, and used to get SO frustrated when she couldn't do things bcs she was too cautious and scared. also very moody and at 5 quite a handful. loads better now is 7. good luck x

katiek123 · 10/12/2008 17:01

ps we enrolled her into karate at 6! she never got on with ballet either. karate has been great - she and her brother go and both love it. helps to build confidence, respect for others and discipline. supposedly. well i think it has helped actually - certainly with confidence! (DD still talks back to me plenty, sigh!)

numerouno · 13/12/2008 07:49

Thanks! Maybe we'll try that. I'd never thought of karate! x

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