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Advice needed please

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Dibsie · 10/12/2008 10:30

A friend has just mentioned that, according to her son, my son has been pulling his trousers down in front of him in class! (they're almost 5) It's not something we encourage at home and I'm not sure how to broach the subject without making a huge deal of it. Anyone got any experience of this?

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Notreallycutoutforthis · 10/12/2008 11:06

What did the teacher do? Mine did that out of the blue at the childminder after school (he's reception too) - the CM put him on the naughty step and explained how rude it was, then when we got him home we reinforced how rude it was - he knew by then as he asked me to not tell DH, which I obviously had to do as I told DS.

Then once he was settled in bed I think we probably giggled for half an hour or so

popsy0204 · 10/12/2008 11:13

Just remember that at this age they start realising that certain actions can bring them a lot of attention, especially if all the other kids thinks its funny!
As a parent its highly embaressing and you wonder what other parents think of you. My friend's son did this once at his school and he gave him such a firm talking to that he never did it again.

Make sure you don't let your son think its funny and that its very serious, I'm sure he won't do it again!

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Dibsie · 10/12/2008 11:19

Not sure if the teacher knew. My friend's son was very vague about the whole thing. She wasn't even sure if it was a recent thing or if it happened a while ago. I'm probably over reacting but it just seems so out of character for my DS. I don't want to make a huge fuss about it but just want him to know that it's not the done thing.

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brainfreeze · 10/12/2008 11:27

Don't do anything. If it is happening regularly, the teacher will mention it to you. TBH it's pretty much the norm in reception ... they soon learn that it's unacceptable. If the other kids laugh, then they've got a captive audience .. GREAT!

My friends son got his doodaa out at the Autumn assembly (parents watching) .. she was mortified . I don't need to tell you that he will never do it again - was severely chastised for it by both teacher and his mother - But then again he did get a huge laugh from the crowd, as he knew he would (he was 5 at the time in reception).

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Dibsie · 10/12/2008 11:33

Thanks brainfreeze. I will chill. (Although I will be watching his innkeeper's performance very carefully on Thursday) If you hear on the news of a mother hurdling chairs at a nativity play you'll know who it is!

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StephanieByng · 10/12/2008 11:42

god yes this is so common - don't give it a thought, if he does it in view of an adult at school they will certainly deal with it and by the sounds of things it won't happen at home...it's just him finding out where the boundaries are. Don't worry one bit about it!

(have to smile at mental picture of you coiled like a spring at nativity ready to leap into action!)

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Dibsie · 10/12/2008 11:48

It could turn up on You've Been Framed as DH is threatening to video the whole thing! Even in this 'credit crunch', I'm not that keen to win £250!

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brainfreeze · 10/12/2008 14:18

Wouldn't that be great ... just think of the added value a film like that could bring on his 16th birthday !! Mind you, probably wouldn't do your nerves any good at the mo ...

Enjoy the nativity - he will be great.

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