Will this little girls obnoxious behaviour rub off on my daughter ??

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my daughter has a friend at nursery who's moved in down the road from us. They now play together every week, I've noticed that this little girl is very bossy and quick to blame my daughter for every thing and is always telling tales about her.
I've never experienced this with my daughter as she never has a bad word to say about anyone. She is very affectionate and loving. I thought all little girls of her age were. My daughter has a speech disorder and the other week the little girl snapped at her because she wasn't saying something "properly". I'm a bit worried what affect this little girl will have on my daughter if they are going to be seeing a lot of each other. At her perants evening recently, the teacher told me how my daughter never shows any aggression never says anything negative about anyone. I really don't want her to change. I can see, if she keeps having to stick up for herself with this girl, will she start doing the same thing?
The Mum of the little girl says to her "You won't have any friends if you keep telling tales etc". They seem to enjoy playing together, and she gets excited about going to her friends house. Is there a way I can let my daughter know that what her friend is doing isn't nice and that she should never coppy this behaviour?

I would say just reinforce your daughters good behaviour and tell her how her friend isn't as considerate as her but that hopefully she will act better as she gets older.

This will probably happen if the people around her, like her mum, do point out to her that her behaviour isn't too good.

It's great she has a friend she really wants to be with and little ones should be able to choose their friends but we can 'control' things to an extent by pointing out the good and bad behaviour and as I said the friend will hopefully learn to be more considerate as she grows.

Thanks, that's great advice. She is a happy fun loving little girl, but keeps letting herself down. It's like she's trying to say "Look at me, I'm perfect, Lucy's naughty and not as clever ect". They are both only children, so I hope they will end up being good for each other.

I wouldn't worry about it, just make sure that she has lots of other friends as well. Unfortunately she has to learn to deal with all sorts.

That's true, she has two little friends, also from the nursery who are sisters and they are lovely. They cuddle my daughter and play really nicely. Once when my daughter was crying, one of the sisters gave her a cuddle and said "don't cry darling". It was soo sweet.