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anyone out there with a ten week old?

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thisismyfirst · 04/12/2008 23:55

Can you tell me what your ten week old is 'doing'? I need a bit of reassurance. I'm on my own, and finding it a bit overwhelming and lonely. I don't have any friends with babies to compare, so would love to know what your ten week old is 'doing'. How long are they awake for? How do you play / interact with them? How much do they sleep? How are you coping? I've joined a few clubs, but all the babies are much older so I just feel like I'd like to know what other ten week olds are doing!

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wrinklytum · 04/12/2008 23:58

I've had 2 ten week olds a long time ago

What is worrying you most?

(Congratulations by the way)

lovelydear · 04/12/2008 23:59

have you asked your health visitor if there are some post-natal groups near you? you need to find some other mums like you (which you obviously realise). if i remember mine, they had no routine other than eating, crying, sleeping and a bit of experimental smiling at 10 weeks. Good luck!

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thisismyfirst · 05/12/2008 00:05

I think I'm worrying because I'm on my own and just need to feel that I'm doing things 'right'. It's all been rather overwhelming and I have noone to compare her to. I think she's happy, she has three sleeps in the day (not in moses basket though) and sleeps at night from 11pm to 8am with feeding in the night (although she doesn't wake for these). She's smiley and responds to me singing, but I don't know how much active 'playing' I should be doing with her. I just worry worry worry that I should be doing more, that I should be getting her to bed at 7pm not 11pm, that I don't let her cry because I don't like it.. I just worry..

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lovelydear · 05/12/2008 00:09

heavens don't worry about bedtime yet - you do what feels right, i know that sounds like a cliche but really. she's very little. sounds like she's doing all the right things and sleeping really well. playing is something that kind of develops as you go along, you'll realise when more is needed because she'll be less settled i think. but she's just happy being with you, watching what you are doing, seeing the world....

wrinklytum · 05/12/2008 00:13

Wow! 11PM TO 8AM!!!That is great!At ten weeks they don't really "Play" as such but mine loved lookingat the lights and being under their playgym thingummy,but it isn't essential tohave one,the whole world is fascinating to them.You sound like you are doing really wellSinging is lovely.I sang to mine all the timeIt is early to get into a routine IMHO her sleeping is fab.Look after YOURSELF too,that is important especially if you have to do it all yourself.Have you posted on here before?If not welcome to Mumsnet

BlueJellie · 05/12/2008 00:15

hiya! I have a 10week old who is also my first, has the same sleeping pattern as yours too, though he doesn't go to bed till midnight. Would like to bring it forward a bit but at the mo am happy as a few weeks ago he didn't sleep! I find mine is not interested in toys at all, just me making faces and noises & talking to him. He started smiling over the past two weeks and makes gurgling noises. He has a playmat but I just lie him on it to play with him/sing as he isn't interested with the hanging toys. I find mine gets bored if I leave him be and he's awake - likes to watch me & cries if left alone. Is yours the same? I find as well all the development thingies say he should be using his hands now, is he heck! Still doesn't know what they're for lol

lovelydear · 05/12/2008 00:16

do you live in a surestart area? if so, they should be able to put you in touch with some other new parents.

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thisismyfirst · 05/12/2008 00:17

Thank you this is helpful. Should she be on her tummy in the day? I've tried it but she only likes it for about a minute and then it just annoys her. She likes 'standing' though when on my lap so I'm hoping that's some kind of exercise for her. Is it wrong that I let her nap in the car seat or her bouncy chair in the day? I can't bear to wake her when she's sleeping nicely but I've read somewhere on here it's bad for her developing spine or that she could choke?

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thisismyfirst · 05/12/2008 00:20

Hi Bluejellie - that's made me feel better - she's exactly the same. She's happy and playful when I look / sing/ talk to her, but if I leave her for more than a few minutes (eg to shower) she starts fussing and stops when I come back. I lie her under a playgym thing, but she's not interested in the toys at all so I just sing to her again which she likes.

Lovelydear - what's a surestart area? I've not heard of that.

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wrinklytum · 05/12/2008 00:22

My motto is "Never wake a sleeping baby" If they are unhappy they will cry.DS slept in his carseat.He is 5 now and no damage visible.Go with your instincts.

BlueJellie · 05/12/2008 00:28

yeah I find my ds is happy to sit in his bouncy chair all day but won't settle in his moses basket, only at night. Would be interesting if anyone had any advice on this as I am also concerned about the spinal development after reading a thread about it on here. I take him in the kitchen in the chair as he's quite happy to watch me wash up or cook, as long as I talk to him at the same time! He also rarely smiles for anyone else yet does for me all the time - must be cuz I'm the most familiar? Is your little one smiley much out the house? In regards to 'coping' I only started feeling normal the past fortnight - as I now understand his routine better and he has grown out if his colic stage. Did you have any problems with this? And your doing better than me as I haven't joined any groups at all yet, Im too shy!

wrinklytum · 05/12/2008 00:33

You are both doing fine.Colic is blardy awful.No 2 had reflux which was crappy.The settling in a cot came about 16 weeks with ds and about 6 months with dd (she has sn and had awful reflux)They are all individual.Having a baby is such a big lifechange.I am sure they will be OK in bouncy chair/carseat for a bit.They settle into sleep routine eventually.You are both doing well.Must go to sleep as have to get dc 1 to school in the am.(Comes around sooner than you would think!)

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thisismyfirst · 05/12/2008 00:36

She sometimes smiles for other people, but mainly only for me. She sleeps when we're out and about, except today when a man on a bus told me she 'needed a dummy' which irritated me. I've taken her to baby massage which she liked for half an hour and then became irritated after that. It's so so helpful to know that she's the same as yours. It's so hard when you don't know what's right and normal. She's got all these toys but isn't interested in anything other than my face - which is fine by me, but I just wanted to know it's normal!

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CharCharGaboriaInExcelsisDeo · 05/12/2008 00:39

You sound like you're doing great All they need at this age is feeding, nappy changes, cuddles and the sound of your voice. I didn't really play with dd at this age, I just talked and sang to her. You are her favourite person, of course she wants to look at you

Shooflypie · 05/12/2008 01:33

Lots of cuddling, lots of singing is what I remember doing too (ooo all of 6 months ago ). When I'd exhausted my entire repetoire of songs, I discovered I could inflict them on DS all over again if I sat in front of a mirror with him on my knee. He could watch the 'other baby' and see/feel his head being patted, cheek being tickled etc.
That took us up to about 9.30 am....

Thereafter I'd take him round the house and let him look at stuff in minute detail, or chatted to him while I did some chores.

He wasn't interested in toys either at this point (not till he could hold them I think) but did like looking at books if the pictures were clear enough. I'd lie down on the bed with him and turn the pages of Cat in the Hat veeeeeeeeery slowly. It was nearly as good as a nap.

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