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I am at my wits end.. please help me with some advicebefore I go slightly insane...

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2pt4kids · 04/12/2008 20:39

DS2 (9.5 months) is just doing my head in. He is whinging and moaning the whole time, and he doesnt sleep well, never has. I am at my wits end and dont know what to do.

He has only been constantly whingy the last few weeks (only!). I think it MUST be either his teeth (he has one top one just through and the other bulging but not through yet) or frustration at not being able to crawl/roll/get anywhere. Its probably a bit of both to be honest.

If I put him on the floor with his toys he immediately leans forwards as if to crawl, falls on his tummy, cant move anywhere and cries. He WONT just sit there and play. If I pick him up again and try to sit him back down he goes stiff as a board and wont sit! This is ALL day.

He whinges if I sit him in his activity thing. He whinges in the door bouncer. He whinges in the highchair....
He is only happy if I am carrying him while moving around and giving him my full attention (not practical when cooking/doing anything at all really). I'm fed up of him just screaming if I have to go to the toilet or do something with DS1 and make him sit down on his own for a minute!

Its all not helped at all by the fact that he doesnt sleep well. He's only ever slept all night twice.
Usually he wakes at least twice and probably more most nights. I'd say about every 2 hours. He goes back to sleep straight away with his dummy.

I'm fed up and tired all the time.

I'm thinking of taking away the dummy. (have thought so before too, but chickened out at last minute). I'm thinking if it helps him sleep all night to learn to settle himself without it then at least we wont all be tired and might cope better with the day time whinges... what do you think?

On the other hand, what if he's miserable because of his teeth and I take away his comfort??

At the moment he goes to sleep day time and night time like an angel with the dummy. I just put him in bed awake, give him the dummy and he's asleep within minutes, no fuss.
I'm dreading the stress and upset of getting him to sleep with no dummy (he's never done it and I hate letting him cry!) but thinking it might be worth it long term?
He doesnt really need the dummy for comfort in the day time. He whinges whether he has the dummy or not! Its just a sleep thing.

What shall I do?? How can I get through this horrible whingy phase??

Help me please!!!

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simpsonsChristmasSpecial · 04/12/2008 21:51

No advice sorry but just to let you know that I am going through EXACTLY the same thing with my DD (10mths)

She is fine if I carry her everywhere, all day but the minute I put her down all Hell breaks loose.

She is teething AGAIN but still no sign of any teeth

Am finding this very hard too especially as I have a 3 yr old to look after.

Lets hope it passes soon...[hopeful emoticon]

janx · 04/12/2008 22:09

You are pretty much describing my ds - 1 at the weekend. He has got a bit better since crawling...but follows me round whingeing to be bf. He has a cold and is teething - I am sympathetic but it has gone on for months.
I have a 4 year old who luckily is pretty understanding.

SmallShips · 04/12/2008 22:16

My DD was like this just before she started crawling at 6mo (now 10mo). She was fustrated at not getting anywhere, but changed overnight as soon as she could move, except for the odd teething meltdown.

RNW · 05/12/2008 09:18

Hiya,
just to let you know that my 9 month old was like this a couple of weeks ago, it lasted for 2 weeks where she whinged all day and was totally out of sorts. She also screamed at night, waking every couple of hours. There was no sign of any teeth and I started to think she had been kidnapped and replaced with an alien baby
She suddenly stopped one day and was back to her normal self, I looked in her mouth and then noticed that 2 teeth had started to appear. She's still teething now, but not in the hideous way she was. My daughter can't crawl either-why would she want to when she can just sit up and play with her toys like a princess

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