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Worried/Aspergers?

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hmb · 14/03/2003 14:05

I am a little worried about Ds, and I was hoping that Mumsnet might be able to give me some advice. Ds is almost 3. He has some problems with speech development, but it putting together 4-5 word sentences, and 2-3 related sentences. He points at things that interest him, and shouts look! His gross motor skills are fine, he runs, jumps, kicks a ball and climbs very well. He is not interested in colouring, but can hold a pen and scribble. He taks part in imaginative play, but likes to play alone. He is very, very affectionate, and loves to hug, cuddle and be kissed, and he makes excellent eye contact. So far so good. However, he has mild obsessions about trains, cars and planes (these seem to be getting better), eats his food in order, has a massive tantrum in the shoe shop or having his hair cut, sometimes finds it difficult to take part in activities at nursery, doesn't like change (but will go along with it), and likes a routine.

His nursery has flagged up the language problems as a possible reason for his frustration and tantrums, and we are working on them, with some success. However, I am worried that there might be something else that is a problemie the milder side of aspergers. I am on my own at the moment, and all my worries get blown up, out of proportion. I'd be greatful for any feedback

Thanks

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besage · 02/12/2003 01:20

thanks everyone for your response
i feel so glad to have found you all .
i feel a bit weird since dd was "labelled" ,i always thought that it was something i had done wrong -that she was so bright and clever but there was something different about her that i couldn't figure out so i thought it must be me -I'm an older mother maybe i just wasn't patient enough or clear enough when i explained things.
Now i feel a sense of relief that there is something that can be identified and helpful information around -but i still feel as if i have let her down and a bit apprehensive about the future. i don't know how to explain it all to my dd -she knows something is going on -HOW DO I EXPLAIN IT ?
cheers besage

mrsforgetful · 02/12/2003 14:13

will give this some tought and post later! Keep it up Besage...you sound a bit brighter!!

besage · 09/12/2003 01:20

just a question re DD and ASD .Is it usual for them to poo (sorry) their knickers a lot. DD seems to just get focused on something and doesn't make it in time or isn't even aware until after the deed is done! I never get upset with her about it ,we have worked out a plan for school(she takes baby wipes and spare knickers)and have told her teacher to let her go when she wants to - he wasn't happy about this as previously he punished ANY child if they needed to go outside of normal break times.this was soon stopped as many parents made a fuss - but he still 'humiliates' (DD's words) them and DD if they need to go! sorry ,just having a whinge.

mrsforgetful · 09/12/2003 01:38

not had exact experience- but ds1 has always had 'urgent' pos and ds2 needs me to 'clean' him(he's 7 and should be 'fully' toileted)- as if i don't he ends up with it on his pants...mine are pretty 'able' kids so maybe i've been lucky...but i do know there are links between 'bowel' difficulties and autism...i think its to do with diet...but i'm one of these parents who cannot face restricting/changing an already rigid diet to eliminate the offending foods...that's how i know things aren't too bad for me in that 'department'- otherwise i'd be desparate to try ANYTHING! sorry not much help!

besage · 09/12/2003 01:45

yes it was helpful Mrs F,the "cleaning up" bit is happening with 7y-o DD too .She is getting much better at doing it herself but some weeks ....!
I think it might be a diet thing too!

Davros · 09/12/2003 08:50

She could have bowel/diet issues completely unrelated to ASD/AS. Parents usually remove cassein first as its easier and then gluten (bread, pasta, cakes, biscuits, some cereals and crisps etc). I know parents who then also eliminate apples, strawberries, bananas and lots of other things. Like MrsF this is not something I do as my son does not have bowel probs and already has a restricted diet. Jimjams knows more (as usual!), I'm sure she'll point you in the right direction, maybe the Sunderland website which I think is at osiris.sunderland.ac.uk/autism/index.html

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