I recently posted my concerns about dd's behaviour and had some very helpful replies. One in particular recommended 'The Highly Sensitive Child' to me and I am half way through. It has been useful and I recognise many of the traits in both dc's.
I still feel rather isolated in terms of the way dd reacts in the presence of 'strangers' (anyone who isn't family). I have collected her from nursery every week for 2 years now and her over-the-top, wild behaviour seems to be getting more and more exaggerated recently. I know she only behaves this way as a way of dealing with self consciousness but she must come across as being totally hyperactive!
A friend has just been over with her younger dd, and dd spent most of the time bouncing off the walls, shouting and being verbally aggressive. She calms down evetually but it's as if she can't help it and cannot deal with people being here.
She is not like this at all otherwise. Has high concentration levels, is generally polite, plays qiuetly/nicely etc; the usual strops but is just a normal 3yr old.
The book seems to focus on the 'skirt hugging' tendancies of hscs, and although she sometimes acts like this when we're out she tends to cover up her shyness with extreme manicness. Does anyone have any experience of this?
I've felt a lot more postively recently but don't know how to approach this behaviour.