Dancing or friends house for tea?

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DD1 has made some really good friends at school and they all play at each others houses on a tuesday and have tea after school.

DD1 dances after school and has the play coming up so can't skip classes or she won't learn the dances in time. She has the costumes now and is really looking forward to it every day apart from a tuesday when she tells me she wants to leave dancing and doesnt want to be in the play she wants to go to her friends.

By the time we get to dancing her mood lifts and she really enojys it and starts chattering about taking the dvd of her in the play to show her friends in school and which is her favourite dance in rehearsals.

She has been pestering me to put her into competition classes fo ages and I have now given in she starts this tuesday after her normal class. She is very happy about this now but come next week she will want to go to her friends. Her comp classes will mean that she will never be able to go to her friends on a tuesday because she will always have a competition to practise for.

My compromise with her is that once our dining room is finished (after xmas) she can have her friends over to us on a monday. DH thinks that I should let her leave dancing again for a year (she only wants to leave on tuesdays any other day the thought is horrifying to her) so that she can relax with her friends as he thinks she feels excluded and will get bullied

WWYD? Should I let her go to her friends but she will lose out on the play and comps or should I stick to my guns?

I would either:

give her the choice. she either goes dancing, which means tuesdays. or she gives it up just to go to friends.

or

speak to the other girls mums and ask if they would mind doing it another night. is there a reason why it's a tues atm? or just one of those things. I am sure they'd understand if you explained (i would, if it were me)

How old is she?

I don't know why tuesdays. The other mums all know each other from outside of school and I don't know them so I would feel cheeky asking them to swap the day which is why I said after xmas they can come to us (we will have moved into our bigger house by then and there will be room for her friends to come over plus its closer to where they live)

DH thinks that she is on the oustide of their group because she doesnt mix with them outside of school but she seems happy enough with them when she is walking home from school but he says she tells him that they pick on her.

She has other friends at dancing and is having a birthday party soon where both groups of her friends are going.

Funnily on her actual birthday she wants to go to school and dancing to show all of her friends her birthday badges.

Sorry she is 5 in two weeks.

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