At my wits end with my 3.2yr old ds

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About two weeks ago he started waking two or three times a night and crying for mummy. I would go in and settle him but he would wake again an hour later. This is probably totally wrong but at five in the morning we allowed him into our bed and he slept straight away.
This has been happening ever since and I do not know what to do. He has always been quite clingy to me but I am worried that he is beginning to need me all the time. Is this normal for a little boy or could it be a problem.

Sounds like yet another phase... I think around this time they get night terrors. my DS is also 3, he is now starting to comment on how dark his room is, and for me to leave the ceiling light on, as well as the night light.. I amnot sure what you can do other than reassure him, maybe keep him up a bit later so he is more tired, has he a night light, is his door open a bit so he knows you are just down the hall?

he has a night light and we always leave his door open. He has never gone to sleep on his own.
We have even bought him some new bedding and pictures for his room to try and make it a bit more welcoming.
He cannot tell me what is making him cry just that he wants mummy.

Hmmm... sorry then, all I can give is my wishes that is improves fast..maybe others can give you more helpful advice.

We had this with ours - but she was a terrible cosleeper at that age. All elbows and knees. We got sick of it after a couple of nights and told her she couldn't come in. She sorted herself out pretty quickly - but perhaps we're meaner than you.

Since then our 18mo started coming in most nights at 5am but she's all nice and cuddly and I can sleep with her so we didn't get so mean so quickly.

That makes me a two faced beatch doesn't it?

to the OP I do not think it is wrong to let you 3yo sleep in your bed (maybe because I am doing it too...) just be prepared for the faxct that it might take some time for your Dc to "like his bed again". My advice would be to put him to bed in his bed and not mind too much if he emmigrate to yours during the night. he might very well start sleeping for the whole night in his own bed again.

Has he has a big change lately, new nursery or...? he might just be unsettled temporasrely..

OhIdoliketobebesidetheseaside, you are right, not all cosleepers are fun to be with, DD1 was very petite but used to sleep in a "starfish" position and virtually take all the bedspace. DD4 wakes up the way she arrived in bed. strait as an i. Much more space and much better nights.

He has not had any big changes recently. He spent a night at my mums house and woke up crying. I ended up going down and bringing him home in the middle of the night.
One thing I have noticed is that a couple of times when he has woken up his tiddler is pointing to the sky, don't know if his hormones are all over the place.

This is actually quite a relief to hear for me! DS (3.4) has been waking more and calling out more - and we can't always figure out why.
Unlike yours, he's obsessed with it having to be dark - lights of, curtains closed, door must be closed, landing light off (we have to creep around in the dark until he is asleep if we need to go upstairs!)
What really reminded me of him was your statement about his "tiddler" (word makes me giggle by the way!) - the other night DS woke up clutching his crotch, crying for me, I asked if he wanted to go to the loo but he didn't answer and then finally calmed down without me doing very much apart from being there. So I'm thinking your theory fits..no help on what to do except just get through this phase, though!

We have had similar with ds1, 3. He was also a clingy baby. Recently had the scared of the dark thing. I have to say that we have has some accidental sucess afer taking wim with his torch/ spinney sow light up thing from ASDA, when its dark. He now asks to go out when its dark. One afternoon he just announced he wasn't scared of the dark anymore, It's nice isn't it mummy, otherwise my snow spinner wont light up.

We never let him into our bed though as I need somewhere thats just for dh and I!
What ever you decide to do, just stick with it. I thnk that seems to be the trick form reading all similar threads. Good luck!