give me strength......today i have a 3 year old teenager

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today ds has: refused to get dressed until mid-morning all the while having a paddy because he wanted to play in the snow; taken keys off my laptop keyboard twice...the first time i caught him just as he was about to flush them down the loo; cleaned his teeth about 7 times because he knows he's only supposed to do it morning and bedtime; pulled all the clothes off the clothes airer,he then proceeded to throw the airer around so i got hurt retrieving it; hit me and thrown things at me and refused to apologise.

He has raged and screamed and fought me all day and i am worn out. He is poorly (cold and ear infection) but he's not really ill IYSWIM......he's just being defiant and wilfully destructive today.

This is so unlike him, we do of course have the odd tantrum......always short lived, he seems to have them every so often to see if i've changed my ways, when he realises it's a tactic that doesn't work with me he gives up.

I just needed to get this written down and out of my system so to speak. For the first time since he was about 18 months old he has reduced me to tears of frustration today......

cold and ear infection will be making him feel crappy

he has antib's and today i've had a real battle getting him to take them because 'i am better now' when clearly he isn't......
He's been very lethargic the last few days, maybe he's been frustrated by it and is now letting off steam.

I know i am lucky that he is normally such a good boy, i guess that's why i've found today so frustrating.....

If he's got a cold, he may have a bad taste in his mouth, hence the teeth cleaning. However, I'm afraid that if my teenage dd behaved like that, ill or not, she would be going back to bed. Or taken on an enforced walk in the rain/snow to let off steam.

Are you ok today ? silly question, but I can usually pin my ds behavior down to my own mood swings. How I feel also depends largely on how I react and can sometimes cause a 'snowball' effect throughout the day. Just a thought

i have a 10 yr old toddler. wanna swap?

janeite
he is 3

Omg I'm sorry! I thought you meant your teenager was behaving like a three year old!

he calmed down, we sat and watched a bit of telly with lovely cuddles.....got dinner ready and sat on the sofa to eat it, then he throws a cushion across the room. He picked up another one and was told if he threw it then telly would go off.....so he threw it and then threw an almighty strop about it. He's still crying/sobbing/mardy/throwing temper about god knows what.

Mummyofboys - i am tired, but was aware this morning that i would find it hard work....have made an effort to stay calm and deal with his behaviour in the usual way, but i guess he has picked up on it.

well he sat on the sofa and cried and when descended into 'iwaaaaaaaaaaaeeeeeeeelllllaaaaaooooooooo' which translates as 'i want telly back on' i'd had enough. Picked him up, carried him to his room, pj's on (no argument from him which is unusual),into bed.....bedtime story, cuddles and goodnights......and not a peep out of him so far (also unusual)
He's worn out.....in bed a good 40 mins before bedtime.
Lets hope tomorrow is better, but after today i am hopefully better prepared to deal with it.

off to have a much needed G&T and then an early night

Awww - he sounds exhausted. Sorry again for my totally misguided comment. Enjoy the G&T.

that's ok janeite .....if he acts like that when he's a teenager he can move into the garage

My DS is being a bit like this too (he's 3.6)- and also has a stinky cold. I think to be honest most of his bad temper is the fact he still doesn't feel quite right, probably very tired from being a bit poorly, and in our case DS gets frustrated by tiredness (wants to be out & about doing things (made worse by awful awful weather over here keeping us couped up inside) but is still very tired...). Normally I can reason with him when he's not keen on doing something that needs doing, and am fairly strict about "whinging" etc., but when he's below par all that goes out of the window.

Hopefully your DS will have a looooong sleep and feel happier in the morning. You definitely deserve your G&T!

Gosh, only today. I'll do you a swap for 4.3 ds who behaves like that most days. No one believes me as his behaviour at school and elsewhere is exemplary. Today he brought his duvet, pillow and quilt downstairs and refused to get dressed until mid-afternoon! When he has occasionally kicked off at friends with similar aged dc they just stare open-mouthed