Aggression in 2.5 years old

[blackrock]

My 2.5 year old has been demonstrating increasingly aggressive behaviour towards me. I am straightforwardly firm, calm, do not get aggressive.

Is this normal. It is usually to do with getting DC's own way, but it is physical, he hits out at me, shouts and pushes me. today he grabbed my throat in a rage (but didn't realise how much it scared me).

Help!

Yes, perfectly normal. Also biting, scratching, hairpulling.

I used to stop it straightaway by grabbing her arms so she didn't get to hit more than once and saying firmly 'no, you can't hit anyone, I won't let you do that'. Then hold her until she stopped fighting. Kicking legs I would restrain by putting my own leg over them. Or just walk away. A firm deep 'no' but don't let him see that it frightens you- that is far too scary an experience for such a young child.

My DS went through this, its a hormonal thing apparently.

Be firm. We do not hit. And walk away, say you dont want to speak to people who hit and that he must say sorry.

Thanks for the comments. I think I am responding in a similar way to you both. I am getting him to say sorry

Mine does this.It is quite distressing.But I do what you do, stay calm and I gently hold her arms or legs to stop her hitting/kicking, until she has calmed down.And I always insist she says sorry.When she is really bad I give her Time Out.Gives us both 10 minutes to calm down which helps.