Hope this is the right place to post this and after meal times so please don't read if you are sensitive.
Ds had stomach bug recently that effectively let his bowel blocked up and fecal incontinence. Lactulose helped but another issue seems to have arisen. He won't sit on the toilet, either at home or school. He says he is worried about germs. Instead he is having almost daily accidents in his pants. He now knows when he needs to go (which he didn't when he had fc) but won't go to the toilet.
His teacher is lovely and has offered to check the toilet at school before he uses it (it is cleaned four times a day as well) but doesn't seem to make a difference. We talk about it every evening and he promises to sit on the toilet every day but doesn't. When I try to persuade him he ends up virtually hysterical. Tonight I made him sit on the toilet. He got upset and then had his bath and ended up doing it in the bath.
Any advice on how to deal with this would be welcome. He was late toilet training (a year ago - prem baby so gross motor skills very delayed). I would hate for the other children at school to start calling him names - one has already. So I really need to sort this out now.