16 month old ver clingy again

ilovetochat · 2008-11-21T15:14:58+00:00

dd was quite a clingy baby and took a while to even go to gps and regularly seen friends, then when she started walking about 13 months she became much better and less clingy. all of a sudden she is like a limpet again and cries if gps try and pick her up or if i leave the room. why? It is driving me crazy.

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FattipuffsandThinnifers · 21/11/2008 15:38

I don't know the answer I'm afraid but DS is like this too. Was clingy from about 8-12 months (normal separation anxiety I guess), then fine, and now suddenly at 18 months is really clingy again. Can't leave the room without cries of mummy mummy mummy

My niece (2 next week) was like this too, but it seemed to go by about 20 months so I'm hoping this won't last either. Armchair child psychology probably, but I wonder if it's a new realisation that you might actually leave them to fend for themselves? Maybe as they get older and want to be and are expected to be a bit more independent it may be a bit confusing? Dunno, but I'm sure it won't last too long!

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ilovetochat · 21/11/2008 15:50

i feel worn out, i'm so glad she has been asleep for 2 hours, phew.

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kristatwin · 21/11/2008 17:25

I am having exactley the same problem with my DS, as soon as we get up in the morning he starts crying, and will only calm down once sat on my knee, once he has calmed down he is fine, but he seems to have a tantrum, unless he is sat with me, when it suits him !!

He is 15 months, feel like i cant do anything, he is a twin, but does not seem to be affecting DD, not to sure the best way to deal with the situation, any suggestions !!

kristatwin · 21/11/2008 17:25

I am having exactley the same problem with my DS, as soon as we get up in the morning he starts crying, and will only calm down once sat on my knee, once he has calmed down he is fine, but he seems to have a tantrum, unless he is sat with me, when it suits him !!

He is 15 months, feel like i cant do anything, he is a twin, but does not seem to be affecting DD, not to sure the best way to deal with the situation, any suggestions !!

kristatwin · 21/11/2008 17:25

I am having exactley the same problem with my DS, as soon as we get up in the morning he starts crying, and will only calm down once sat on my knee, once he has calmed down he is fine, but he seems to have a tantrum, unless he is sat with me, when it suits him !!

He is 15 months, feel like i cant do anything, he is a twin, but does not seem to be affecting DD, not to sure the best way to deal with the situation, any suggestions !!

kristatwin · 21/11/2008 17:26

Sorry, god knows why it has come up 3 times !!

kristatwin · 21/11/2008 17:26

Sorry, god knows why it has come up 3 times !!

kristatwin · 21/11/2008 17:26

Sorry, god knows why it has come up 3 times !!

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ilovetochat · 21/11/2008 20:15

dd lasted less than 10 mins in a creche she knows today and they brought her back as she was screaming and shaking, as soon as i picked her up she cuddled into my neck and shut up. then a girl looked at the toy sheep she was carrying and she started crying again. i find it very stressful!

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phlossie · 21/11/2008 20:37

My son started to be really confident at about 20 months. Now nearly three, he runs away from me without looking back and is gone in seconds flat, it's scary.
It may help to know that this phase will end. Lots of cuddles, reassurance and activities together will help your daughter become a confindent, independent little lady.

meandjoe · 21/11/2008 20:41

Awww, my ds can be like this. He NEVER lets me go to the loo on my own, he follows me everywhere but I don't even think about it now I am so used to it and it doesn't bother me. It must be hard for you if you are having to leave her in a creche and she is like this, my ds wouldn't last 5 minutes either! He also cries if someone looks or god forbid touches a toy he's got, expecially if he's teething. He cried whaen the bloody phone rang earlier . Separation anxiety apparently does come and go and then return again at your dd's age but hopefully it won't last long. It is normal though .

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ilovetochat · 21/11/2008 21:03

i'm a sahm so dd is mostly with me and we do lots of classes and walks to park etc and she is very confident talking and running round playgroups but she doesn't like to be held except by me and her dad.
I only use the creche to get her used to others really, like when i go to aerobics or meetings in the centre.
i don't know whether i should let her get over this phase before i leave her again or leave her more to get used to it. its difficult, i can't bear to hear her crying for me.

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ilovetochat · 22/11/2008 12:56

had a terrible night, everytime we put dd upstairs to got to her cot she screamed hysterically and was shaking and nearly sick and i was crying i was scared something was wrong with her, ended up lying downstairs with her and she was wimpering mommy daddy, then lay on our bed with her till midnight till she fell asleep, she was up at 6 as normal but woke up crying mommy, she seems so upset and has cried this morning at her gd and then screamed place down when her dad went to work. she has just gone down for a nap.
i can't feel any new teeth coming but she felt a bit hot, i don't know if she is ill or just very anxious.
we are both knackered.

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ilovetochat · 22/11/2008 19:47

well dd is actually ill, she projectile vomitted just as i got her to a friend's 1st birthday party all over her new dress and my new top, lovely. she actually seems a bit better now it's all out. poor thing!

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meandjoe · 22/11/2008 19:52

Aww poor little lass. At least it explains the terrible night! My ds was up last night needing cuddles cos he's got bad cold and was coughing and crying. He's normally really good at night, there is usually a reason when they get like this. I'm sure when she's feeling better she will be a bit less clingy. For what it's worth my ds has been a velcro baby today and has only left my lap to be fed in his high chair. Even had to sit on my lap on the loo!

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ilovetochat · 22/11/2008 19:54

he sounds so cute i had a look at your pics and he is lovely!
she is in the bath now so hopefully she will be nice and tired after her milk and go to sleep.

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meandjoe · 22/11/2008 20:04

Aww thank you ILOVETOCHAT, that's a lovely thing to say . I think he's totally stunning but I guess I'm biased!

Fingers crossed for you to have a good night and no screaming. How is everything else going with her? I think I read a thread from you about a month ago about her running around the house and wanting her own way all the time! Just to let you know my ds is just the same (by the way i'm not stalking you, I just have a very good memory and spend way too much time on here when ds is asleep!)

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ilovetochat · 22/11/2008 20:07

like me, i'm always on her at nap times and when her dad baths her, its' the only peace i get.
she is still the same, like a wound up toy that gets released and she flies round the house climbing and reaching new things every day. she is a lot of fun and we do lots of fun things and classes but she is a handful from 6am till 9pm every day.
i have removed her from the rocking horse about a million times as she keeps standing up to ride and nearly tips over his nose, she really is a little nutter.

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meandjoe · 22/11/2008 20:10

Wow, sounds just like my ds but thankfully he goes to bed at 7! He hates being restrained too and just wants to charge about exploring EVERYTHING!!! He has to touch everything, even when someone picks him up to sit on their laps, he just stands up and tries to grab at the pictures on the wall . He's only been a little calmer today as he's been ill. I tend to just leave him to it unless he's likely hurt himself but it always ends in a crying tantrum if I do give him some direction or move him from something!

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ilovetochat · 22/11/2008 20:12

they are learning stroppiness independence

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meandjoe · 22/11/2008 20:16

Hate to do this to someone else today but did you used to be called mamachat?

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ilovetochat · 23/11/2008 18:29

no, not me sorry.
lo has been a bit better today and has a new molar tooth come through so i think it was a bit of a bug + teething.
dp took her out for an hour this morning so i've had a break today, she is in bath now ready for bed cos she hasn't napped all day and is very cranky and tired. hope you and joe had a good day.

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meandjoe · 23/11/2008 20:36

Ahh was just wondering as your dds sound very similar and are the same age... glad she has been a bit better today. Joe's cold is no better and his little chest sounds very rattley so I am taking him to the doctors tomorrow. He has cried all evening . It's awful becaus I know he's ill but all that crying is very hard to listen to!

Hope dd slept OK. Think Joe is getting another molar through too, which is not helping!

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ilovetochat · 24/11/2008 13:00

she slept 7 till 7 but cried out in her sleep every hour or so so we had a disturbed night, i've kept her off her classes today but took her for a walk up the road and back, need to get reins as she wanted more freedom than holding hands. i've worn her out, she is fast asleep and hasn't even had lunch yet.
hope joe goes ok at docs, it's horrible when they cry and you can't help.

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