HELP!!!!!

[Huggles22]

i recently became a step mom to a 19 month old his father has been working alot the last week. He left for work this morning at 430 am ant his little one woke up and heard him leaving, he has now been screaming continually for 1 hour and won't stop no matter what i do. i tried picking him up and snuggling him and he smacked me in the face. i tried giving him his soother and he just threw it away, he is in his crib right now, because he was wandering around smacking things off of tables while he does this shrill scream, and he is still screaming. i just don't know what to do he just won't stop . This is not the first time this has happened the last time it lasted until his father came home a total of 5 hours

That's terrible, for both of you. Is there no one that he's comfortable with ie mother, grandparents etc that can have him on these occasions while you're building up a relationship with him. What about wrapping him up and taking him to the park for a bit of funtime to try and get him to relax?

How hideous for you. What about trying to distract him by popping him in front of the TV for a bit. Sometimes when my DS becomes hysterical he seems to find it difficult to get himself out of it. I need to help him but it's not always easy to know which is the best way. Sometimes I give him some food I know he likes. He might initially push it away but if I walk away he sometimes then takes an interest. If I can get him to do anything other than scream then the cycle is broken and I can then get him to calm down.

It may sound dumb, but have you checked that there's nothing specific making him uncomfortable - nappy, needs a drink of water, hungry? Does he have a regular routine - it's best to stick to their routine as much as you can, so if he usually has a nap after lunch or whatever you should try to get him to do that when you're looking after him. Also, do you get a chance to do fun things with him when he's happy and dad's around? The more time you spend with him in "normal" circumstances the more he'll accept you when dad's away.

Sorry none of that probably helps just now though - distraction with an interesting toy or the TV can make them forget they're unhappy.

usually he is fine with me its just if he wakes up when his dad leaves he starts freaking out, thank you all for you help i tried a few of those but its not helping really. i phoned his father and he is going to come pick him up and take him to his mothers for the day. he says he has the week off next week so we will work on ways of fixing this then and hopefully in 2 weeks from now it will all work out for the best. Thank you all

hi huggles, is there any soft play near you that you two could go for him to focus his energy on something else? just a suggestion for next time.

Sounds like he was very tired - had he had a nap at all this morning? Does he have regular naps?
Are you full time carers for him? What's his arrangement like - is he regularly with his mum as well? You say you recently became step mum - are you newly with his dad? Sorry to ask so many questions but without more information it would be hard to help I think. Sounds like he is unsettled though, from your first post, which wouldn't be surprising if this is a new situation?

I feel for all of you. How about giving him something in his crib that has his dad's scent on, like a toy or dad's t-shirt? That might comfort him. Good luck!