Still no sleep at 1 aaahhhh

[mumtoo3]

hey all
really need some help and advise, i have 3 children, and my youngest is 12 months and 2 weeks, she has never slept through the night, is still breastfed 5 times a day, and yesterday and today are her first days ever to eat 3 solid meals in a day! but my problem is she wont sleep at night she wants to be in our bed with me not feeding just cuddled, she wakes up on an average night as follows:- bed at 7pm, wake at 10ish, sleep on me put her back in her bed abour 1ish (i fall asleep with her!), she wakes about 3ish cuddle till her feed at 5ish, wakes for the day at 7am! i cant cope with this lack of sleep and am struggling to function.

any ideas, we have tried controlled crying but she cries for hours at a time, and we have to wait for a 5 sec gap in her screaming to calm her down, when she wakes it is not for food! is it worth seeing a cranial osteopath? any ideas please help a mother in need of some sleep

She sounds like my dd4 13 months! Totally sympathise.
Had to give up bf'ing when she was 10 months (gutted!) as we both got horrendous thrush and couldn't clear it, moved her onto a bottle as she was so used to the comfort factor of suckling (she was feeding a ridiculous amount from me, all night it seemed!) we thought it would be easier (wrong!) she wakes through out the night and looks knackered every morning (she's crying now for the 5th time since 7pm), so we're working our way through it but like you very tired and need some advice! Will watch your thread with interest Good luck!

Can you let her stay in your bed and just cuddle, while you sleep? Maybe she just needs the comfort and closeness.

Thats what I did with the others! I love snuggling them at night too, dd4 however just doesn't want to, which threw me as she used to sleep on top of me when she was smaller, I always thought that my heartbeat made her feel secure....obviously not anymore

Ds never wants to cuddle, unless you start cuddling when he's already asleep. I miss that new baby cuddliness

does cuddling them at night make a rod for your own back further down the line iyswim? this is so new to me, i dont mind cuddling her at night if i can get some sleep but i dont want to make matters worse, does it make them sleep better when they are older? thanks for your replies
mt3

If you're quite happy to continue co-sleeping, it shouldn't be a problem. Then you can introduce her to her own bed when she is older and easier to reason with/distract etc.