Jealous 18 month old of newborn member of family.....night waking, clingy

[hayleybop]

DD1 18 months old DD2 2 weeks old....having trouble with night wakings, does usually sleep through but not all the time...last night was the worst ever night...uncontrollable screaming....how long does this jealousy thing go on for or am i asking how long is a picec of string....

It will pass. No set time for it to last though, but you know that.

Be calm about it. Let dd1 help where she can. Try and have some special time with dd1. Don't be anxious about her hurting the baby. Indulge her when she wants to be babied herself.

Things improved for us when the toddler could make the baby laugh and they could interact a little.

not sure thats jealousy sounds more like a reaction to a major change and feeling insecure as a result. as oldbea said really and try to keep routine same as it was before. also found with my 2 (18 mths difference) that not pushing ds1 to accept ds2 helped.

it will pass and in a years time they'll be ganging up on you to misbehave

dd1 is two and half and ds2 is three months. dd1 has always slept through the night since she was six weeks but since ds2 has come along she is in our room every night and even falls asleep on the floor next to his cot if she cant get in our bed. I have tried everything to get her back in her room but not working. Today i put ds2 cot into her room as only hve two bedrooms and fingers crossed they are both asleep. She was quite excited about looking after him in the night and how she has to stay in her room tonight or he will get lonely!!! Not sure if it will work but it cant get any worse!!!!