Not sure if this is appropriate section to post this in.
DD is in yr2 (nearly 6 and a half).
She has always played with a group of about 7-10 girls. The leader I will cal X and a newly developed right hand man B. B has been on the scene for past 6 months or so.
Anyhow she invited her friends including X and B to her birthday party last June. X then had her party in Sept and didn't invite DD (second year in a row).
End of Sept I had B back for tea, stupidly thinking it might help their friendship. B's mum stayed and we chatted. All seemed fine. Then in October dd started complaining to me about B saying she was always telling on her etc. Thought typical girl stuff. One day whilst they were playing after school all the telling started and my dd ended up in tears. The next day B's mum and I had a talk to the girls and told them to be nice to each other. I was surprised when B's mums said "you's don't have to be frineds but be nice" . The way my dd acted and spoke about B I thought they were friends.
Eg. If they see each other on way to school they hold hands and chat excitedly going in. Apart, from that day, they seem to play nicely together after school. ACtively looking for each other to play with.
When X is on the scene then dd is dumped a bit and I see her having to sort of stand a bit more outside the game.
Anyhow, now B has handed out her party invites to all the girls that play together apart from my dd. Dd says they are the "girly gang" yet all in the "gang are invited apart from her.
I am just upset for her because both of the people, whom I know she classes as her best friends haven't invited her.
Has anyone any advice, do I presume that these two girls just don't like my ddd and let her play with the "gang" because they would get into trouble otherwise.
I have began to think, maybe she is a nuisance to them and they are just tolerating her. If this is the case then I would actively encourage her to make friends outwith the gang. I am also thinking maybe she hasn't learned the same etiquette's as the rest of the gang. The rest of the gang invite my dd to their parties. Just not these two.
I was thinking of acting daft to B's mum and saying to her "dd has lost her invite to B's party, what time is it on at?"
Not to see her squrim as such, thoug. would be good . But just to hopefully get a feeling on the situation.
Sorry to go on, and wel done for reading all this.