HELPI- I need to be me.

[rusmum]

DD (15 weeks) has been attatched to my breast or my shoulder now for 15 weeks.

She will NOT settle, go to sleep anywhere else or with anyone else. She wants to be in this position constantly.

I have trie d leaving her to cry -this went on for over an hour!!!! Even in the car she will scream until picked up.

Once picked up she stops instantly .

At night she sleeps with me attatched but is nipping and making me sore - besides which i dont sleep .

Any ideas on 'training' her or making things just a little easier??

My poor 4YO is terribly letf out ATM!

Dummy?
Not for everyone, but they can be useful.

Have you tried a sling?

Gosh that does sound very difficult. Have you tried putting her on a playmat or under a babygym for short spurts. That might get her accustomed to the idea of being by herself for short periods.

I know some people have found that those toys that play soothing music and glow softly haved helped their babies to sleep.

tried dummy she spits out!!! or gags - not a sling sling- a carrier where she is on front. tried but perhaps not persevered enough!! problem is she doesnt like being laid down at all, likes to be upright pref on shoulder???

Odd eh??????

have you had her checked for reflux? i know people who've had similar situations and had silent reflux diagnosed. i think it's important to eliminate that before moving forward.

otherwise i suppose you could try putting her down for literally 30 seconds, work up to a minute, and so on. i imagine she'll be furious at first, but for your and your 4yo's sake you've got to be able to either put her down or in a sling occasionally (might be easier to persevere with sling?)

have you tried one of those vibrating/rocking chairs that play nice music?

i had a similar prob with ds at 6 weeks when my parents visited for a week and he got used to being held constantly, but fortunately it only took him a few days of slowly increasing the time i put him down for to get him back to normal.

if you need motivation to at least get her into a sling, just remember how heavy she'll be in a few weeks!

LOL thanks hopefully!!! she 13lb already!! my back kills.

silent reflux??

how would i know if this a possibility??

think she just mardy??? ( or used to getting own way).

My ds was just the same. Never laid on a play mat, wouldn't go in a pushchaie, hated car. He had to be up on my shoulder CONSTANTLY. He never ever went to sleep in his moses basket or cot in the day, he always had to be 'walked' or fed to sleep and I could never put him down.

He hated dummies, I tried every shape and size, he just spat them out for months before I gave up.

I have to be homest and just say that there was no magic tuning point where he became happy and independant and no miracle cure for his behaviour but it did happen, just very very slowly.

Just to give you some perspective, he's now a happy, active VERY independant 15 month old who always settles himself to sleep and sleeps through the night for 11 hours in his own cot. He plays and explores independantly, smiles and laughs and is a gorgeous child.

For me, the first 9 months til he got crawling were awful but it did get better. He is still very head strong and needs a lot of stimulation but that's fine as he can usually provide his own entertainment as long as I am near by.

My ds never wanted to lay down, even in my arms he would never be cradled or cuddled, always up on my shoulder.

thanks me at least i know it not just me.. poor dh getting very fruastrated too as she scowls at him ( if hes lucky) and screams ( if he is not) lol.

Lol, my ds was like that with everyone, just scowelled and frowned at everyone, then cried. We had him checked for reflux and even tried him on medication for it just incase, we also tried cranial osteopathy at about 6 months but nothing helped, he was just bad tempered and had to be held in a certain way and needed constant movement and stimulation. It was a nightmare but it's over now. My dh found it so tough as I was in tears nearly every day, my back killed and I couldn't go anywhere but it does get better, my back has fully recovered!