DS1 asked me if he could do something, I said not now, he has done it anyway.

[imnotmamagbutshelovesme]

Listening to him now he is trying to involve DD in it so I will let it go but it is just another example of how he doesn't do as I say.

How old is he? Why are you letting it go?

Letting it go is completely the wrong thing to do - it just gives him the idea that he can do what he wants and you'll let him.

Which I suspect from your "just another example" comment is pretty normal? If it is, you need to get control back pretty darn quickly.

I know, I know.

I have let it go as it feels like I would be having a go at him when he is involving his siblings and they are having fun together. Makes a change.

He is 7.

I will be having a talk with him soon.

Why are you not having a talk with him now?

Seriously, you have to stop this otherwise he will run rings around you.

If you let him carry on with his sister, she will think it's OK to do it too and then you'll have double the problem to deal with.

Sorry, but I really think you have to stop them and deal with it.

This is exactly what happens with my dd nearly 7. She goes against what I've said, gets dd2 (4) to go alongfor the ride and then screams about favouritism whne I tell her off.

I am not talking to him now as he is upstairs playing with his brother and sister and I am still thinking how I am going to handle this.

What he is doing is fine in the scheme of things and linked to what he has done at school today so it isn't anything bad or naughty.

I didn't want him to do it.
He has done it but it hasn't caused a problem atm and he has led into them playing nicely.
I will still be talking to him in a few minutes when I go up to get them ready for bed.

Ooops

He hasn't done it.

He has improvised.

Oh dear.