ds hitting other children, please help me... im gutted

[aprilgirl1]

i have ds who was 2 gone aug, i have just had twins 14 weeks ago and ever since he has started hitting other kids im really at the end of my teather of what to do with him, hes such a lovely little boy very advanced for his age in all aspects! tonight he has scratched his baby brother so bad hes bleeding and thinks its funny when i tell him off! just laughs at me, keep trying the step but he wont stay on it! took him to soft play and ended up haaving to follow hom around as he was keep wacking the kids in there until it got to bad i had to take him home, he goes to our local tumble tots and theyve asked me to move him to the older class as hes too boistrous for the kids in his class now..... the final straw has been today when i collected him from play group his key worker hs told me hes raising his hand in there too... i dont know what to do , hes such a sweet little thing and if you met him on a one to one youd love him i just really cant cope with this stage he is going through... any idea on how to deal with this.... PLEASE hes had me reduced to tears today!

Oh i just wanted to send you a hug - you are not alone and its blimmin awful to go through. My ds is 19 months and we have been going through it since he was 9 months. How can 10 months be a phase? He is an only child too and gets pleanty 1-1 with me so try not to feel like its because of the twins it could just be something he has to go through. I hope it passes soon for both of us
xxx

I know exactly how you feel, ds has had me in tears lots since he started his hitting phase which also coincided with dd's birth. So embarrassing and distressing. I have no advice as we're still trying our best with time out/going straight home from the park etc but he still hits more often than I think is acceptable. His saving grace is that he's really lovely with dd (she's the only other child on the planet he never whacks)
ime though most other parents are really understanding about it as long as they can see you are trying to deal firmly with the issue. Other mumsnetters have reassured me on my frequent threads about this that "it is only a phase"