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what the hell does one do with a baby which from birth...

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bumbly · 12/11/2008 08:21

will not be left alone

am actualy gettng angry with little one now (not to hit, abuse etc before mumsnet brigade lynch me!!)

just annjoyed - some mums will now what i mean

am give hium cuddles and milk first thing and leave him for 1 mins to room next door to have my coffee and he bawls and screams cuz wants to play

i simply can't leave him to play

he follows me howling pulling at leg and doesn't play with toys which i leave in eveyr room

he plays if i sit down for him for half an hour but today i needed my coffee beofe starting to play -have flu

and this is only the start of the day

much worse

but now ma looking forward to him sleeping each eve and that is not good

and don't have pnd - just am exhausted with this little one
need tips

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Horton · 12/11/2008 19:04

Get a wireless phone that you can move about from room to room, take your baby with you when you go to make a coffee and give him a wooden spoon to bash the floor with, go to the loo and take him with you and talk to him while you are on the loo. I know it's hard but it honestly doesn't last long. When he's 15 and yelling 'get out of my face, I didn't ask to be born' etc, you'll probably look back on these days fondly...

Fllightthebluetouchpaper · 12/11/2008 19:06

Bumbly I think everyone feels like this about a baby

They are blardy annoying little things, despite us loving them they are very clingy and you can't get on with much

I hated it the first time
This time I don't care so much

It does get easier once they are about 3, they can play a bit on their own etc.

I have flu as well, luckily my second one is a bit easier

PeachyAndTheSucklingBas · 12/11/2008 19:07

Bas (7 months) is exactly the same- we havent even bothered getting a cot as the crib was such a waste of money!

No advice (except that babyhood passes so quickly so make the m most, one day soon he'l be 19 and you'll be wishing he were around your feet) but as it is hard going

PeachyAndTheSucklingBas · 12/11/2008 19:09

I have his old bath seat in the bathroom so I can use the loo

PeachyAndTheSucklingBas · 12/11/2008 19:10

and its not true all bbies are like this- Bas is far more cimgy than any of the other 3

Fllightthebluetouchpaper · 12/11/2008 19:11

Peach I had a cot in the kitchen - nowhere else - it was great just to stick him in to sit there for a minute while I got a cuppa.

You do need somewhere to put them don't you.

I found the floor with a folded towel was the only option a lot of the time.

PeachyAndTheSucklingBas · 12/11/2008 19:14

dh is planning on getting the travel cot out soon, he's been having cranial osteopathy and now at least dh and my Mum can hold him so my arms get a break- she say not going in cot is due to neck issues, he did have a very quick birth and whatever it is she does, it helps!

Fllightthebluetouchpaper · 12/11/2008 19:34

Ooh. I wonder if mine would benefit. He's been a very easy baby till about a couple of months ago (now 17mo) and suddenly cries a lot and wants to feed allllll night

Is CO just for little babies?

snickersnack · 12/11/2008 19:38

ds is 17 months and has always been a bit of a velcro baby. He's better than he used to be, but always likes to make sure he can see me. He's happy enough to play on his own, as long as he knows where I am.

I do occasionally put the stair gate up at the top of the stairs and nip to the loo (stupid house - loo is half way down the stairs). Cue massive wailing from him until I reappear, but I always tell him I'm coming back and keep talking to him so he knows I'm around.

I've made sure all the rooms are safe, and he just follows me wherever I go. It is irritating sometimes, but mostly I do find it quite flattering.

And in my view it's perfectly ok to look forward to bedtime. I'm not sure there's a parent who doesn't!!!

meandmyjoe · 12/11/2008 19:51

I look forward to bedtime, every day! It's tiring having a little person who is so utterly dependant on you. T'is normal.

kettlechip · 12/11/2008 20:03

hi bumbly, ds2 just coming up to 15 months and v similar. It reduces me to tears some days, when he won't let me even go to the loo without screaming and trying to climb up my legs. I've started putting him in his cot in the morning while i have a shower and over the past few days he's got better at being left. I explain to him what I'm doing and leave the door open so he can see and hear me, and leave him with a load of toys. He's also started going to a childminder a couple of mornings a week and is apparently fine for her, even though he has to be peeled off me to start with!

It is totally exhausting and i feel for you!!

kettlechip · 12/11/2008 20:04

and i highly recommend cranial oestopathy, worked wonders for ds2 when he was tiny and wouldn't sit up. Apparently he had residual birth trauma which was pinching a nerve.. worked pretty instantly!

dontbitemytoes · 12/11/2008 20:43

oh bumbly i totally sympathise. Was considering starting my own thread today about how i have reluctantly had to accept that my dd is high needs. she is a nightmare. i love her dearly but i get nothing done. Nothing.

i find my days/hours go better when i completely succumb to the fact that I am here for her. then, and only then do i find it easy the problem is when i try to be me and do things i want to do. Telly does help, but only for about 30 mins and if she's sat on my knee though

i'm hoping it wll get better. i like to tell myself its cos she's intelligent she walked early and is talking well now (14 months). She's just a frustrated baby, wants to be an adult i think

pour yourself a glass of wine and celebrate the fact that now is your time - well thats what i will do anyway. Until 5am tomorrow

Horton · 12/11/2008 21:29

Do you know, I hate the word clingy. I use it myself, often, but actually it is such a negative word. They LOVE you and want to be with you all the time. That's not clingy, it's lovely (and annoying at times but still).

sparklylucy · 12/11/2008 21:35

2 of mine were like this and I got a second hand back carrier (a karrimore or the like) from an NCT sale. I would put them in this a lot of the time so I could at least do the hoovering and ironing, make a cup of tea etc ie hands free operation. Then we progressed onto a hip seat which was costly but worth it because then you've got sort of 1 1/2 hands free.

PeachyAndTheSucklingBas · 13/11/2008 09:21

co is fab and is for any age- the lady before Bas is pushing 80 easily!

After 1 session he went from 6 feeds a night (age 5 months) to 2.

We have to scrape around a bit for the money but God it's fab.

PeachyAndTheSucklingBas · 13/11/2008 09:24

Agree about succumbing- on the 22nd dh anfd I are going out. This happens once a year if we're lucky, and guess what- baby come too because he won't settle (and hs a fab blackmail technique of only drinking from the breast and refusing all others. So full glam evening dress, fab strapless number, gloves, dh in tux the lot- and baby.

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