Getting really fed up of 5yo dd wetting herself most days.

[thesockmonsterofdoom]

I try to be nce about it but I am really starting to get fed up. I had parents evening yesterday and her teacher asked if there was any reaon for it. there is nothing that I can think of.
I need to think about potty training dd2 but I cant face it as dd1 has never stopped wetting herself, she doesnt seem to mind when she does it at school, it burns her excema, you would think that would put her off. I am starting to lose sympathy which I know is not fair, but other people dont seem to be unable to take their 5yo places with out acidents.
She also has a complete meltdown when we get her to go to the toilet before bed.
she doesnt wet the bed though it is only in the day.
Any ideas, I am close to losing it with her.

sockmonster has there ever been a stage where she has had control over it? If not is it worth a trip to gp just to rule out infections or other causes. If she has had some control in the past then the only thing I know is time and as little attention for it as possible...get her to change herself when she wets, put her own clothes in the washroom etc. Try to comment as little as possible on it. I know this is much easier said than done.

she has had phases when she does it less, but never not at all. I try to get her to deal with it herself at home, I just tell her to go and get changed and clean up, she even puts old nappies over it to clean up.
I think it is behavcioural although I cant be sure, there doesnt seem to be any triggers. Just like she cant be bothered to go to the toilet.

Would she respond to a made up story about the problem something along the lines of
There once was a little girl/princess/fairy (whatever she is into) who kept wetting her knickers. Go on to say some of the social (smelly, friends teasing), physical (uncomfortable, sore) ramifications and end with the little girl/princess/fairy decided that she wasn't going to let the wees beat her so every time she got the tight feeling she would rush to the toilet and make all the wees go there. I did this with ds with poohs and it worked extremely well. It took a couple of weeks of not reacting and telling the story a couple of times and then he just went off and did poohs saying "Ha ha poohs, I'm going to beat you this time" he hasn't looked back. Might be worth a go? Otherwise I would recommend ruling out any physical causes especially if she has never had it fully under control.

I love that idea, Also thinking of bribery. Ie you can have this shiny noce thing if you dont wee yourself for two weeks. she is old enough to respond to that.

Ohh bribery absolutely old enough to respond to that. All the best, I hope you can soon look back and breath a sigh of relief that it is all sorted.

Iam gong to buy something tacky and bright today, say of she has no accidents for a week she can have it, then I can rule out any physical problems. Thanks.