DS is biting at nursery :(

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And I dont know what to do - he isnt like it at home. I dread picking him up as know I will be told he has done it again and I hate it - I blame myself.

DD is 2 months old - he has been carrying on with nursery a few days a week to give me some chance to catch up and for him to enjoy the fun he usually has. He has loved nursery up until this point and still apparently has a great day apart from the biting.

I dont know what to do now. I have been picking him up by about 3 pm anyway - earlier some days so he is just there in the morning and he is having loads of sleep. I am blaming myself tonight that he shouldnt be there but between my lack of sleep, constant breastfeeding DD and pnd and the fact he genuinely loves it there it seemed the best idea. I also have to submit my phd next summer and need to work on that so its a necessity to.

I dont think I am going to take him tomorrow but am at a loss. What do I do? I have tried talking to him about it buts hes 2.4 - not a great age for communication! I am really blaming myself - doesnt help my pnd makes me feel like the worst mother on the planet without this happening. He loves DD and hasnt seemed jealous at all until now.

Any ideas?

Its nothing to do with you - its honestly just a stage they go through. DS was a terrible biter for about 8 weeks - no change in our circumstances at all, and nursery said that a lot of boys do it, esp at this age when their understanding is greater than their ability to negotiate. So they lash out with biting.

Nursery (he's there ft, so we don't see any children outside there for him to bite) did a 2 minute sit in the quiet area to think about it, and then say sorry, with someone assigned to be close to him during flash points to stop it before it happened. They also split him and another biter up during lining up for lunch etc as he got ideas from this other one.

So, keep on with nursery, ask their advice on managing it so that you are consistent with them, and don't worry about it. Like everything, this too will pass.

WTB, nursery should be able to help on this but my understanding is it's not unusual. DD was watched closely by nursery staff for a few weeks when she had a very brief biting spell, and had a couple of periods in the naughty corner at home. So there was intervention before it happened, and consequences if it did. I hope it calms down soon.